The Guilt
Posted by Mummymissesyou in Guilt on Apr 14th, 2011 | 19 commentsMy best friend just gave birth to her first child. I wish he had died shortly after birth, like my son, just so someone else can feel the pain i’m feeling.
It’s not fair that I had a perfect pregnancy that resulted in early neo-natel death while her pregnancy, which was anything but normal, ended in a slightly premy birth with a perfectly healthy son.
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Envy ! so thats what it is , huh ?
ok look you should Thank God all the time because who knows maybe that baby wasn’t gonna be normal, or maybe when he becomes a teenager he would’ve got you in allot of trouble. so Thank God that he pushed him away. and i totally get ur feeling i know that 9 months wasn’t easy ! i know how being so happy and counting the days is. i know exactly what you’ve gone through but it’s ok God will make it up and he’ll give you something better. just live life normally go out have fun Love your self and love people, be happy. Nothing and nobody is worth it :) <33 i wish you all the best <3
you sound immature. when you grow up you will { i hope ] learn to be happy for others despite your own losses. life is not fair. once you realize this, you will not wish other women’s babies dead. shame on you.
One, I never said I wasn’t happy for her. Two, I know life is not fair.
Three, when you grow up you will realise that I am not the only grieving parent feeling this.
One, I never said I wasn’t happy for her…..
but was only wishing her baby was dead.
what do you call that? its running away from responsibility.truth is a bitter pill.
now swallow it.had your baby lived he/she would have been right in getting ashamed of you.
you don’t deserve to be a mother of anyone.
hunny you seem like your grieving to much maybe you should see your doctor talk about your fellings it will really help i was in the sam situation and in ther end i got ove rit and now im pregnant to my second child
A lot of people feel that pain everyday.
Stop acting like it’s only you.
I can’t believe you would wish that on a baby.
You deserve to suffer. But your baby does not.
well 1st off it isn’t good to wish things like that upon others
if ur baby wasn’t born there is a significant reason behind it
yes it is normal to be jealous but remember jealousy is a weak emotion and to live in reality u must be strong
so get over something that didn’t happen for some significance and try again if u want to have a child
One, I’m quite aware that what I wish isn’t good. You don’t think i’m ashamed of feeling like this? That’s why I wrote it here.
Two, if you’d read it properly, you’d have seen that my son WAS born. How dare you tell me to get over something that didn’t happen. My son lived, and he died. He wasn’t a fish, or a lizard or a fly. He was a living, breathing human being. He was loved.
And what I am feeling is not jealously. It’s a longing to connect to someone, anyone, that has experienced the same pain and grief that I am feeling.
…”you’re grieving too much”….now that throw away comment given by Michaela was ridiculous,stupid even… I get that this for you is a feeling/emotion you have and possibly many mothers who have ‘lost’ a child. Like you’ve said you wrote this post under ‘Guilt’ on here… I’m truly sorry your baby died from what I’ve heard it’s possibly the worst pain a mother will experience…bless you for being true and sharing..
i dont believe you.
your talk is about your friends baby
dying not you loosing your own.
you are a good imature liar.
a spade is a spade not a big spoon
To wish that another woman’s baby would die [ your own friend yet ] so she can feel the same pain you are feeling is not normal.
you may be in pain but wishing others would feel pain is terrible. pain comes to all of us in different ways Take a minute and consider the reality of people around you today and who they are and what their life is like. Each one walks a road filled with something affecting their days in some way. We do not know the pain others are in. You sound immature. Go get help. Seek counseling. God forbid you should get pregnant again – you are not fit to be a mother. I would not want you for MY mother.
Wow I can’t believe the responses I’m reading. You will never know the love a mother has for its child until u become one. Yes it isn’t good to wish death upon anyone but this lady is obviously in pain. Instead of bashing her show love and compassion. HOW DARE ANYONE JUDGE HER. You should be ashamed of yourselves. This has nothing to do with the level of maturity; this is a mother in pain after losing her gift of life; her baby. For those who have the nerves to bring god into this; should really go and check yourselves… Speak god name but in the same breath condemn this woman. It takes a lot of courage to speak up; IM PROUD OF YOU FOR THAT. But you have to find peace and somehow find forgiveness in your heart or you will never truly be happy. Don’t waste your time or energy on THESE PEOPLE. They have a one way ticket to hell for half of the nonsense that has been written.
i beg to differ.
she is a spoilt brat.
i don’t think she deserved to have a
baby in the first place.
her character and morals are warped.
I think you should ask yourself what if the situation was reversed? What if it was YOU that had had the baby that lived and your friend had had the baby who died? How would you then like HER to think, feel, behave and act towards YOU? Would you like her to be wishing YOUR baby dead? I don’t think so. Do unto others honey–it’s bad karma to wish your friend’s baby was dead so she could feel YOU pain.
I will repeat myself – how would you like your friend to think, feel, behave and act towards YOU? Would you like her to be wishing YOUR baby deadif your situations were reversed and she was the one whose baby had died ? And you had a living, healthy one? I don’t think so. Do unto others honey–it’s bad karma to wish your friend’s baby was dead so she could feel YOUR pain.
i am very happy i am not your friend.
you really can be cunning.
to whom are you speaking?
not you Sal.
you can notice i am outside of your reply.
i actually stand for your view.
its too bad some people pretend to be friends without taking up the responsibility associated
with the friendship.
i would rather not have such a friend.
Jesus what a judgmental lot this is. She isn’t evil, she’s grieving and furious. You obviously have never lost a child or you wouldn’t so quick to judge. I had an ectopic as my man’s ex was birthing a beautiful boy with her bf. I was so jealous and emotional, I hated them. Then their baby did die. I felt terrible. Emotion isnt rational. She needs therapy and meds maybe.