Sweet dreams
Posted by Meghan H. in Guilt on Aug 4th, 2010 | 11 commentsMy boyfriend has been trying to get me pregnant. I know this because he used to tell me condoms were 100% neccesary, but ever since we broke up then got back together he says he can’t feel anything….On top of that he sometimes says he wants me to have hs babies while were doing it. So he did succeed. In getting me pregnant. But I don’t want to be with him for the rest of my life. So… I had an abortion 4 months ago. And now I can’t stop having nightmares about having a baby but it vomits up blood or dies in some insane way! I wake up in the middle of the night all the time…crying, screaming, or breathing heavy.
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I believe that what happened to you, is a total karma, seriously, I’m not trying to offend you or something but you just actually committed murder. face reality girl..
An abortion isn’t murder, the fetus isn’t alive yet, I don’t like abortion either, but sometimes it’s necessary. She dosn’t deserve this.
you let him screw you, knowing he wanted to get you knocked up, silly girl, what happened is you own fault.
You will never be able to change the past, so the healthiest thing for you would be to work on loving yourself and shedding the guilt.
It was a difficult decision, I am sure, and now you can learn from it and move on. Perhaps, if you are unable to do this on your own, a counselor could help.
Guilt is not healthy to hang on to, and often our troubles during the day show up in our dreams at night.
starsloveyou is an idiot. life is not that black and white if you have actual feelings. and an abortion is better than bringing an unwanted child into the world who will be brought into an environment of parental politics with people who don’t want and aren’t ready for it. i would imagine the dreams you are having are not unusual, given the confusing and messed up situation you are in. whether it’s your fault or not you got in i empathise. decisions are difficult. but the guy sounds like a douche and better to make a clean cut now than lead him on knowing you want to break up with him at some point…..
What would be worse: having a child when you are that young and unable to take care of it, or having an abortion because you know you are too young to be in that place?
The hell with it: when you are ready to have children (ie: in a strong partnership; emotionally mature; financially reliable) you’ll have children. To do so before then is to dump your child on society and the tax payer.
As far as I’m concerned (and as far as any logical, non-christian persona is concerned) you did the right thing. NOT that abortion is the answer all the time: just if you are not in the situation to take care of the child.
that’s one thing abortionists won’t tell you. there is pain and regret and all these emotions that “mothers” feel after they have an abortion many commit sucided because of it. you should find a center or group that helps deal with post abortion stresses
Actually, “abortionists” DO tell you that, and provide services to help people deal with it. As opposed to trying to make you feel like a horrible person for considering it in the first place. It’s called being rational.
I’m so sorry, I feel badly for you.. what you’re going through sounds terrible! I would most definitely agree that some kind of after-care would really help you.. This is ALOT to deal with! Good luck to you
I’m so sorry, don’t feel bad, forgive yourself, we live in a free country, and you have every right to do what you want, it’s your choice. Try to think of happy things before you go to sleep. :) Good luck.
you can’t change the past but u can change the future.
You should offer up advice for women in the same position. Maybe you can stop others from making the same decision.