Aw, that’s sad. It’s not too uncommon though. It’s called survivors guilt. As many times people TELL you that you shouldn’t feel guilty or wish that you had died instead, it’s hard to truly believe them. Depending on your personality, group therapy, talk therapy, maybe talks with her and your family and friends can help.
Do not wish away your life. You care about her greatly, it is obvious. She probably cared about you. If you had died instead, she probably would have felt the same as you do now. Do you want to wish that feeling on her? If she knew, somehow, that you had this wish, how do you think she would feel? Likely, upset that you have such guilt over it, and over the fact that you’re hurting yourself for her sake. Would she be happy that you’re tormenting yourself for her? If she cared for you as much as you for her, which is very likely, she would not. For her sake, as well as your own, try to find someone to help you pick up and move forward.
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life — It goes on.” -Robert Frost
Truth: Thats ok,,,,so does she.
Aw, that’s sad. It’s not too uncommon though. It’s called survivors guilt. As many times people TELL you that you shouldn’t feel guilty or wish that you had died instead, it’s hard to truly believe them. Depending on your personality, group therapy, talk therapy, maybe talks with her and your family and friends can help.
Do not wish away your life. You care about her greatly, it is obvious. She probably cared about you. If you had died instead, she probably would have felt the same as you do now. Do you want to wish that feeling on her? If she knew, somehow, that you had this wish, how do you think she would feel? Likely, upset that you have such guilt over it, and over the fact that you’re hurting yourself for her sake. Would she be happy that you’re tormenting yourself for her? If she cared for you as much as you for her, which is very likely, she would not. For her sake, as well as your own, try to find someone to help you pick up and move forward.
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life — It goes on.” -Robert Frost
Truth: Sometimes.=]