My dirty little secret is about to explode.
Posted by scared in Guilt on Dec 8th, 2010 | 9 commentsI have been married 10 yrs. I have three wonderful children. I had a good job. My marriage was rocky as my husband is away on business 20 days a months. I work at a prison as a guard. I began to have a connection to one of the inmates. Months after he was released I myspaced him.. just to see how he was doing. I used a fake profile. We started talking and to make a long story short I had an affair. I told my husband and everyone that he was an old friend I was just helping. But this person was bad..he did drugs, he manipulated me..finally I had enough and made him leave.
He did not leave quietly. He threatened to ruin me.. make me lose everything that I have. He sent me hundreds of text messages..thousands of calls. I told my work the police.. family.. that I knew a friend from a long time ago.. did not recognize him when he came to prison..and I helped him after prison but when he started to act creepy I stop talking to him and that is why now he is harassing me.
My job fired me. My husband bought a gun and put locks on the doors.
Then I find my CC is charged. I know he is responsible. A $400 purchase for a sound system. Make a long story short, police are conacted.. he is arrested.. now facing prion for fraud. I lie on the police report (the same story I have been telling everyone). The guy must have wrote down my Cc# when he was at my apartment.
Well I know I will have to testify in court. I am scared shitless. I txt and called this guy romantically..not sure if he saved these.. or what he could prove by showing these ( besides to ruin me). I know he plans to play dirty. On his myspace it says that “my old g.fried will have a few surprises when she comes to court”
I understand I made a mistake. I have prayed to God everynight for forgivenness. I was guilable and stupid.. I put my whole family at risk. I just want this to end. the has shown me that I do really love my husband.. I want to work to make things better.. if he finds the truth out though we are DONE.
Im so very scared to go to court. How can I keep up this lie in court? Im wondering if they will even bring it up.. I mean he is in trial for fraud.. but I puke everyday thinking of this
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Write about it in more places, and surely nobody would find out.
Hire an attorney asap to go with you to court. Have your attorney talk to the prosecutor about the situation.
I’m sure his attorney is smart enough to figure out the phone messages. Besides when he starts telling all about the affair and everything else, your marriage is screwed, unless your husband is willing to continue living with a lying, bitch who screws drug addict convicts while he’s on the road trying to make a living for you and the kids.
His best defence is to say you bought the sound system for him as a love gift. No way to prove you did’nt.
I don’t know what makes women like you do these things but whats done is done.
Please keep us posted.
I bet you could go back and change things.. Don’t we all? It sounds really scary and I’m sorry to you, I bet he was a good con-man and although alot of people will disagree, I’m sure you were weak and lonely because your husband is gone 20 days a month. I feel really bad for the situation you’re in. Blessings to you and your family
If all else fails, you’ll see how much your husband truly loves you…
Thank you all for your words..
I don’t feel bad for you – I feel bad for your husband and kids. You brought this on them with your own selfishness.
And if your husband doesn’t find out, you’ll still lose him. Deception in your marriage, especially to the one guy you SHOULD have trusted with your feelings, will kill your marriage. Your pushing your husband away for your own damn pride.
I’m a correctional officer as well. You already knew what would happen to you from day one when we’re trained on this. Hell, you’re better off just dating another officer at your job. I do not feel sorry for you at all.
heres a lie that might help you out.
Try and drop the charges. Say you don’t care, or you made a mistake, run it by your lawyer to find a reasonable way to drop it. If anyone asks why, just tell them the truth. It was causing you to much stress that wasn’t worth the $400 stolen.
no body would argue that your self-health is less important than $400. I’m sure by now that you’ve already canceled your credit card and changed your phone numbers.
If he comes to your home or makes contact. get a restraining order.
However, it sounds like this guy just doesn’t want to let go.
a drug addict wouldn’t generally be smart enough to save any of his phone information on a computer or portable device, so you could always try stealing him phone, destroy it, and knock some fear into his head. If you worked as a prison guard, i’m sure you might be able to handle that type of thing. However it’s up to you, and i strongly don’t suggest breaking any laws.
Practical advice? DO NOT COMMIT Pergery!!! No matter what happens, it’s better for you to lose your family and stay out of jail, than to go to jail and still lose your family.
I wouldn’t risk jail time. if questions are brought up about it, don’t make any mistakes.
GL