Leaving my fiance for something less conventional?
Posted by Sheis Anonymous in Guilt on Mar 6th, 2011 | 6 commentsI am 33 year old woman. I feel as though I’ve almost never made the right decisions in my life. This may be no exception.
I live with a handsome, intelligent man who I have plans to marry in the fall. I have discovered that I am not sexually attracted to him. He is a terrible slob. He talks too much. We drag each other into a mutual paralyzing depression for no discernable reason.
I’ve been contemplating leaving my fiance and moving down the street from a close friend of mine who I AM sexually attracted to. She is bi, and happens to be looking for a third wheel in her marriage.
I only know this because I’m in love with her husband.
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Perhaps you need to talk to a professional therapist.
You say your man is handsome, intelligent but also a slob? I wonder if he feels the same way about you as you do about him. Maybe you should have a heart to heart about how you feel about each other. Decide what you want with your current relationship and then think about the other couple.
You know on your heart what it really is. Are you making excuses to cheat, or are you really unhappy and he isnt your sould mate? in which case, do both of you the favour and end it.
There is NO justification for being the other woman unless both parties in the couple know about it, and consent as a fantasy fulfillment.
Non traditional means not the norm or non conventional, it doesn’t mean chaos and self destruction and that’s what’s going here. It sounds like you are sabotaging a potentially good life which is common in people who have trauma or abusive backgrounds. If that’s the case, you should do some soul searching and try to find out why you are setting yourself up for ruining the life you could have with someone you love.
If the two of you drag yourselves into misery by just being with each other, maybe an unconventional life will not be the worst choice.
your a mess period. you need to get divorced because even though he cheated on you early in the relationship he doesnt deserve being cheated on by you, two wrongs dont make a right. and now you want to join another couple, hows that goig to make anything better sounds like another future heartbreak to me.
Lex… I didn’t say he cheated. I didn’t say I cheated. I said I’m contemplating leaving him, not going behind his back. And we’re not married yet. Are you posting to the wrong thread or something?