I want to leave My husband

Posted by in Guilt on Mar 7th, 2011 | 5 comments

I cheated on my husband with my best friend. It wasn’t planned it just happened and now I am so lost. My husband cheated on me early in our marriage and I wanted to leave but I was pregnant so I stuck it out. 6yrs later I am standing here guilty of the very same thing I have loathed him for all these years. I love my husband but I am not in love with my husband anymore. I am in love with the pretty picture of being married, I am in love with the dream of living happily ever after. I am so in love with the thought of marriage that I may very well love someone else that could probably be my soul mate but I can’t bring myself to leave my husband because of our children. I am miserable and so depressed that this is my life and there is nothing I can do to change it….

5 Responses to “ “I want to leave My husband”

  1. anon says:
    March 9, 2011 at 3:57 am

    Its less hurtful and better for all of you in the longrun to get out of the marriage. Neither of you csn find happiness if your hokding each other back by staying tigether in a loveless marriage. It doesnt stop either of you from still being good parents. If anything the kids will gain two havens (yours and your husbands seperate places and new lives) and if anything. Once you find your real soul mates, two extra bonus parents. You’ll also show your kids how to have the courage to find true love and happiness with their real soulmates, and especially from the hardest times, like tricky situations like this. Lead by example.

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  2. Anonymous says:
    March 9, 2011 at 12:14 pm

    We are not on this planet for very long, make the most of it. Don’t forced yourself to live a lie and be miserable. Change is difficult but not impossible.

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  3. Scott says:
    March 10, 2011 at 7:54 am

    I’m not going to judge you here, just point out what is true and not true, because that could be a good first step.

    First, let’s be honest: “it” didn’t “just happen.” There is no “it” here, but two people who made choices. You and your friend made choices and did things and maybe decided to overlook the consequences in the moment. You have responsibility for you actions whether you can justify them or not. Maybe it makes a big difference that it wasn’t planned in detail beforehand, but let’s assign some agency here.

    Second, you have even more choices you can make. There are things you can do, even if all the options are terrible. Just because all the choices have big drawbacks doesn’t mean you’re powerless, just that you’re presently in an unenviable position.

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  4. jo says:
    March 10, 2011 at 8:04 am

    You deserve better than being in a loveless marriage, leave him the children will adapt and so will you and your husband. It’s terrible being in a loveless marriage and he probably feels the same way as you do.

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  5. Anonymous says:
    March 10, 2011 at 11:27 am

    I don’t know if your husband is a good man or an ******* or whether the life you have now is comfortable. Think about the reality of what the next 50 years could be like however. Maybe if you leave your husband, you and your best friend will live happily ever after. Maybe not. The uncertain thing isn’t always the jackpot, but the sure thing isn’t always for the best either. What kind of life can you stand?

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