I am sorry
Posted by Luna in Guilt on Dec 14th, 2010 | 12 commentsI lied…It wasnt an accident…I stopped taking my birth control…I wanted to have her…I planned to have my baby girl…I knew you would say no…I lied to all of you…I am sorry…
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I understand why you did what you did. I would take this secret to the grave.
No big deal, it happens all the time. We all have different motivations for having kids plus the majority of us are unplanned
I hope you’re being sarcastic, Sarasota.
Are you saying that as long as she wanted kids it was okay to lie and sabotage the birth control? A person can do whatever the hell she wants to as long as the result is a child?
I hope you don’t work in a pharmacy….
P.S. This baby WAS planned, at least by her.
Because you are so selfish, you don’t care to ruin your boyfriend/husband/partner life… Unbelievable… What a bitch you are; I don’t know how you manage to make this right in your head.
I am glad that I don’t know you!
… is right. I can’t believe what a scumbag you are.
How could you do that, are you that insecure that you have to entrap your boyfriend. I hope he wakes up to your nasty ways and leaves you you bitch. I hope he gets custody and they live a happy life together with you getting weekend visits and he moves on with someone trustworthy and honest.
Forgive yourself and love your child.This is not the end,but the beginning. I believe that every life is sacred and if you think about it, lots of people have unprotected sex and it doesn’t result in a child whether they lie about it or not. It was meant that your choice would result in a child at this moment. Enjoy your little girl, and love her so much that one day when she’s grown she’ll feel so strong in herself that she won’t have to lie to anyone.
So, the ends justify the means? If the universe didn’t want her to have a kid then she wouldn’t have one?
By that logic, you shouldn’t mind if someone kidnapped your child. After all, people wind up with kids for different reasons, as a product of different choices, and if you were meant to have that child in your life, he wouldn’t have been kidnapped.
Terrible thing to do.
For those who think what she did was totally acceptable: would you feel the same way if it was a man who sabotaged the birth control to get a woman pregnant? If he poked a hole in the condom because he always wanted to be a dad?
This doesn’t get him totally off the hook, though. He’s still responsible for the result of having sex with someone. He trusted the other person to take care of the birth control, so he was taking a risk in trusting her. One more great reason to get a vasectomy. Total shame on her, but spare a little shame on him for trusting her with the birth control.
I had lied only because I knew I was supposed to have her…It was an overwhelming feeling deep inside that I can not explain…I was 20 at the time and trust me…I did not want to be a mother before but this feeling changed me…our baby saved us…We were falling down the wrong path…I can see why all of you think I am a horrid person…I can not go back in time and take my pills…but to be honest I do not regret it at all…My partner wouldnt have went to college and become a chef…he would probablly be living on the street with all his friends doing heroin…and me who knows where I would be…Yes I lied to everyone I love…and yes if he knew he would probablly hate me…but I feel like I made the right choice…My little girl was supposed to come into this world…I dreamt of her…so i might be a scumbag…but I am at least a happy one..
If that’s the worst thing you’ve ever done, then forgive yourself, there is no reason to tell anyone.
Please, eveyone upset about it here, that’s how children are born 90% of the time!
My husband did it to me, twice! That’s life, people are selfish, not news to me.
Just don’t make it routine; putting your desires before others, or it will show regardless of your denial.