RSSguilt and love
I am a medical student,a girl of 24 full of passion about learning medical science and full of energy.
I have a big problem ,and that is, falling in love with my 40-50 male professors!don’t laugh at me!that bothers me,so that I can’t do my best in the exams.I get euphoria by thinking to their faces and kissing their lips in my mind.I live in Iran,with religeous people and many cultural limitations.I am a moslem,and my professors too.Here in Iran you can’t tell someone that you love him,specially when he has wife!even if you tell him,he won’t show a pleasant raection!
Anonymous on October 15th 2007 in Guilt
Futurist said on 15 Oct 2007 at 11:37 pm # Quote
I am not mocking you. Many times students will experienced what you have, but can’t you ask for Allah’s help when you’re in prayer?
dakoojd said on 20 Oct 2007 at 1:33 am # Quote
dear it seems that u r not using them for studies u r using them 4 ur lust may god help u
raahil said on 22 Oct 2007 at 7:49 pm # Quote
I am not agreed with dakoojd!proffesors she noted in her confession,before being something to use for study(!!?)are humanbeings with many lovely and attractive ethical features,that would put their love in your heart.I think the confessor,has a kind of deficiency in her self esteem that she finds it in attaching to his ideal man in his mind,and i think kissing their lips is the most intemate way of sharing desires which is not, at least apparently,sexual but sensual.
979 said on 22 Oct 2007 at 8:02 pm # Quote
hello my nice.i think what you infered,has a deep root in your pasts.some kind of deprivation of being loved or any kind of limitation in making a bidirectionl intimate relation with your parents specially with your father.it can cause you to seek for pleasure from a unidirectional relation in your mind.i suggest you to ask for help from a psychoanalysor to find the dark points of youre unconcious memory.
Prisoner said on 20 Dec 2007 at 2:10 am # Quote
Time will solve this delima.Just thjink og that professor as your friend
like you said on 04 Mar 2008 at 6:08 am # Quote
I used to have a crush for my professors, because they seem to be perfect, polit, gentlemen in other words, but do i think of them as the ones i want o be involved with? no i dont htink so, i want someone with the same age range, so we can comunicate better, ( young), this profesors are the way they are because of experince in life. just think of them as a motivation for you to get the highest marks in their subjects so they will notice you, and respect you for your brains, that what i keep telling myself!!!!
AAG said on 14 Jul 2008 at 6:33 pm # Quote
It is normal for you to have a crush on your professors. You spend so much time around them, you admire them for their intelligence. They seem so perfect and wonderful.
I am a graduate student and I even dated my professor once. But it ended soon after. The age difference is a big factor, and soon you learn that they are human beings as well. Flawed like you and me and that the wisdom they possess is not infinite and the constraints associated with secretly dating someone in the academic sphere are too much to handle.
Like I said, it is natural to be in love with them, but try to remember he is married and it can never be. Try to find a single young professor, if he is the type you are attracted to. I have heard of many cases where a student ends up marring her advisor.
There is nothing wrong with loving a strong, intelligent admirable man. But remember you cannot act on it. If things go wrong, this man can ruin your career. Find someone you do not immediately work with.