Emotional/mental vampire
Posted by anon in Guilt on May 6th, 2011 | 8 commentsEver since I got involved with this guy, I haven’t paid my teenage sons much attention. We used to be very close. It used to be just us three for a long time. I have guilt. My oldest went to stay with his grandmum. My youngest pretty much ignores me. This guy just takes up so much of my life and my energy. I’m like his goat on a tether. I want away from him. I pray for the money to flee. He’s ruined me. My job. He has sucked the life out of me so completely I feel I don’t even have the will to get out on my own. I don’t know how this happened. I feel so weak for letting it happen. What happened to me? I used to be so strong. Help me God. Help me put my life and my family back together. Isn’t God the one you’re supposed to turn to when you can’t do something on your own? Well, I have- for the last three years. There’s been no answer.
Help. To the Universe or whoever is there listening and can be moved enough to care. Help.
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You have to be strong enough to have the will to get that emotional vampire out of your life. God is not going to blink an eye and the guy disappears. You need to find the courage to do it yourself. Was it your own lonliness that helped put you in the situation you are in now. Get your family back because when they get a certain age it WILL be too late. They are gonna be wrapped up in their own lives soon. Your probably afraid to be alone too. Woman you need to find the courage to get yourself out of a situation you put yourself in. You said you prayed to God and want him to pull yourself outta the situation. Sin is why God keeps his distance from people. Stop living in blatant sin, get yourself saved in Christ name. I mean people to this day sit up hear and call on the name of God to save them when they get in a bad situation and living a distastful lifestyle right in his his face. Get your house in order.Since your praying to God allow him into your heart and life. Give that bad living up. What I mean by blatant sin is when your sleeping with this man and he isnt your husband. Your not raising your kids and they raising themselves is the worst thing ever. We all wonder why children disrepect their parents and instead listen and follow their friends or what they see on T.V. Think about it your not just causing them pain your causing yourslef pain. Your asleep right now I know you feel alone please let the man go and take the kids out on a family trip. Travel and go take them somewhere so they can learn and get out the house for awhile. Spark up some positve influence and maybe just maybe youll meet a descent man on one of your trips. Make your relationship with God and your children the first priority. Go on a disney cruise, the zoo , a museum, fishing, somewhere if you can with the boys. Just leave if you have the funds. LEAVE HIS @$$
Stop being so gullible. Stop giving a man money amongst othet stuff. Why is it so hard to remove this guy from your life other than lonliness?
You need to find the courage to leave this guy alone. Its obvious that you have the power to do so. God isnt going to blink and he leaves. You need to give God what he is offering to you, and not just you to all of humanity. Stop living the lifestyle you living. Are you married to the man? If the answer is no then stop sleeping with a man you are not married to too. You call on the Lord, lord to help you but your living in a distasteful life in HIS face. 3 yrs and not a dern thing change, WHY? why this long? 1. stop being selfish 2. stop being gullible.Nothing has not change because there is somehting about you that has not changed. Its not gonna be easy but find out the root of the problem and its not the man your letting “suck you dry”. Its you and it always have been. You use excuses like Im lonely or I might not find anyone else. YOU ignore the most important things in life. God is by far the most important. When folks find themselves in a bad situation and they call on God to make things all better all the while THEY DO WHAT THEY WANT instead of what GOD WANTS. You put all your might in a man Im sure you could put all your might in God.Change your heart woman. Change. Change. You lack in Strength, you lack in self-confidence. It something in you and about you that your still in this situation. Your hurting your sons too you know. If your not comforting them and being there for them they will certainly find someone who will and put them before you. Who is going to take care of you when your old.Spend time with your sons, go to the museum, a crusie, somewhere they would like to go to. A concert, a sports event, have fun with them. Drop that zero, you know what he aint even a zero he is in the negatives now -0. This guy obvious is not HOTT!! He freakin polar COLD!!!
Honey, I am so sorry to hear about your trubles. Get help at a womens refuge. Don’t feel bad for ‘letting’ this happen, we all make mistakes. But do get help, please
God isn’t the answer. Obviously not the answer to your problems. Sitting/Waiting/Praying/Doing Nothing are all the same and you’ve been doing it for three years now. Find *ACTUAL* help, in therapy, a women’s refuge, friends, or family.
You said so yourself that you were fine before meeting this individual, just you with your two sons (who you are losing because of this man). Ask yourself, is this man worth losing your two sons to?
Take actual action before it’s too late to get them back.
The only one who has the power to change your life is you. You to gather the strength to leave him, otherwise he will destroy you. Good luck and be strong!
you and your sons don’t deserve this. It is up to you to change things- quit cowering and stand up for yourself and kids. You can do this
God meets you in the middle sweets