My gay friend is all over me & I HATE it
Posted by Anonymous in Friends on Sep 25th, 2010 | 7 commentsSo, I’ve noticed one of my closest friends have been getting a bit too close to me. Actually, I noticed a long time ago. She’s gay. A few years back, she was very clingy, touching me a lot, putting my hair right and telling me I look pretty, gorgeous, sexy etc.
Whoa. I felt extremely uncomfortable, but what did I do? Just smiled and said thanks. She knows that I’m straight and into guys, like, the really manly mans. I’m not attracted to women at all.
And then she stopped. For awhile.
She’s started doing it again and making small comments about how we will end up together, and how she knows I want her. I just laugh. But what I really want to do it yell at her and slap her across the face. She makes me feel sick, I seriously have a hard time not to throw up when thinking about all this.
I feel sexually harassed! I’m not homophobic at all, but I just can’t picture myself with a girl, and thinking about it turns me off, it makes me sick to my stomach.
I just wish I could make her stop, she’s a great friend.
Just not when she tries to kiss me and jokes about our future as a couple. I wish I had the courage to get mad at her, tell her to stop it and get over it. But im a chicken.
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I guess it’s her fault then. I mean, you’ve really showed her that your not interested in her “like that” by giggling and all
Seriously dumbass, put her in her place politely and you’ll keep her as a friend. Or put up with the harrassment. God people are stupid… (really, what do you think is going to happen if you tell her she’s making you uncomfortable and you don’t like her advances? Duh… She’s going to respect you.)
I’ve never giggled. Never. I’ve already told her before as I wrote above, but she continued it. **** you, you can’t just judge people like that. Seriously, it’s not cool.
“…and she knows how I want her. I JUST LAUGH.”
And sure I can. You are not setting your boundaries with her. What did you expect – a pat on the back for being ambigously coy with someone who’s sexually harrassing you?! Of course you’re going to be judged. By not putting your friend in her place (by slapping her if neccessary) you’re encouraging her.
I say you should talk to her. If she starts making those comments about you guys ending up together look her straight in the eyes and ask, “why do you say stuff like that?” Say nothing more. Wait for her response and see what she comes up with. If she plays it off as joking around you should call her on what’s been going on and tell her that she jokes about it ALOT and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Don’t be afraid to lose her friendship, because if you do then she wasn’t really your friend to begin with.
At worst … shes like totally in love with you and you’re going to have to break her heart. But you’ll be doing her a favor in the long run. And you.
She is NOT a good friend if she keeps sexually harassing you. As much as it might hurt the both of you, the best thing to do is to not see her any more. She does not respect you.
I can’t say that I agree all with what you did because you should have told her straight out. But I do understand how you feel. It has happened to me before, and I acted the same way you did because I didn’t want to lose this good friend. But my grandma told me: It’s better to get out while you can before it completely destroys you. If she was a good friend, then she wouldn’t make you suffer like this. Protect yourself and just get out.