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My best friend’s husband made a pass at me a couple of years ago when he was drunk and walking me home after a party. I pushed him away and ran. I never told her. I’m not the first he has tried it on with. I know he cheats on her regularly. I wish I could tell her what he’s like but it would break her heart and I can’t do that to her. She’s been through so much heartache. He’s a jerk.
Anonymous on October 29th 2008 in Friends
Britany said on 29 Oct 2008 at 4:48 am # Quote
Whether it would brake her heart or not you need to tell her. She has a right to know and if you are a true friend you would let her know. Do you like knowing that hes hurting her and you are doing nothing about it???
inDubai said on 29 Oct 2008 at 11:39 am # Quote
are you afraid she is too old to be able to find someone better than her husband or something?
at the very least have a conversation with her and find a story online or something about cheating spouses and then discuss it with her and ask if she would want to know if her husband was cheating… if she says “yes” then double check that answer again by asking her if she REALLY would want to know…
then you will know whether or not to tell her.
Lexi said on 30 Oct 2008 at 3:44 am # Quote
That sucks that you are in that situation but your best friend probably already knows. I think that women tend to know but choose not to deal with it many times. And for those who dont know, wouldn’t you want someone to tell you if that was your situation?
I dont mean to sound judgmental but I have been the one not knowing and it crushed me that everyone seemed to know except for me… When I asked my friends why they didn’t tell me they said they didn’t want to disrupt our friendship or be the bearer of bad news… But for real, I think part of being a friend is adding a compassionate reality check and have a connection enough that your friend is not going to freak out on you… Men come and go, but good friends should be forever.
anonymous said on 01 Nov 2008 at 9:22 am # Quote
tell her…it’s her right…
totally said on 12 Nov 2008 at 3:45 am # Quote
TELL HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU SHOULD..I am sure of it..
Tony said on 14 Nov 2008 at 12:39 am # Quote
To all you people offering your advice. USE A SPELL CHECKER.
1st off the woman KNOWS she is married to a dog. She has decided to live in denial.
Second, if you tell her she will blame YOU for the ensuing breakup that WILL happen or you will lose her as a friend and seen[by her]as someone who wants steal her man. Seen it too many times and it ALWAYS plays out one of those way.
Thirdly, No one wants to have someone else point out their bad choices, especially family and friends in spite of what all these Dr Phil wannabes tell you. Keep your own counsel and be there if she chooses to go to you as a friend and only as a friend.
Inasfar as what happen a swift kick in the nuts will keep him away from you forever.
Anonymous said on 14 Nov 2008 at 9:15 am # Quote
well not letting her no is going to hurt her even more .because sooner or later she will find out