I feel guilty because I am truly happy.
Posted by TheHappyOne in Friends on Nov 4th, 2010 | 7 commentsI have met a few wonderful ladies in college that are now my best friends. We get along so well and now that I have these ladies in my life, I feel completed. I never want to get married or have children. True friends is all I feel I really need. As I have grown to know these ladies, they have let me see behind thier smiles and laughter. I feel so guilty because there are no secrets for them to see behind mine. I am truly a happy person. Two of these ladies have absolutely no contact with one of thier parents. Not because of a death but because they are simply not wanted. I am a child of divorce and it has been a blessing in disguise. I have four wonderful parents who would do absolutely anything for me. My step-dad raised me because my dad lived so far away. My dad never failed to call at night and tell me how much he loved me. My step-dad gave me a better life than either of my parents could have ever given me alone. I love him for that. One of these ladies drowns her sadness in pills. She told me about a week ago that she had never had a best friend like me. I feel so guilty that my life has been so easy. I am a happy person. My dad, who I now live 10 minutes from, gave me a speech last night on self esteem. I am so confident and proud of myself. I hate that he thinks there is something under my smile like every other girl I know. There isn’t. My smile is ginuine, and I feel so bad because mine is the only one around.
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You should not feel guilty about being happy and don’t let anyone bring you down. I let people bring me down because they thought I smiled too much and have not been happy since and that was years ago. Your friends are lucky to have you as a friend.
Don’t feel guilty for your happiness. You don’t have anything that any of your friends could not have because true happiness lies WITHIN each of them. Regardless of the path that led them to where they are now, they can be happy but they have to do some soul searching and bring that out of them. And maybe you can be the one to help them do that. But please, don’t apologize for your happiness. It’s yours and no one can take that from you. Just try to continue to be the friends that they need but make sure not to lose yourself or sight of your goals and success in the process. I’m really happy for you!
Yeah, I kind of know how you feel but am older than you and so appreciate my happiness. I’ve been through some hard times and have come out on the other end of it very happy. Many other women I know at my age (36) and place in life (2 kids) are not happy. They’ve lost that sparkle and magic to life, their marriages, their hopes/dreams, and feel they’ve lost too much of themselves with raising kids. I divorced my kids’ dad five years ago and remarried a man with no kids. He’s five years older than me. I get every other weekend, holidays, and parts of the summers “off-duty” when my ex-has the kids. He pays good child support every month. My new hubby makes good money and helps support me. I work part-time and make great money. On the weekends the kids are gone, my hubby and I have a ball together. Since he doesn’t have or want his own kids, he gives me a lot of attention, affection, etc. We have that spark going on still. He travels for work so I get some alone time which I love. Since I work part-time, I workout a lot and have gotten myself back into good shape which the hubby appreciates.
Whenever I’m around a lot of other women, they always seem down on their lives or complaining. They seem so tired. I hide my happiness because I don’t want to seem obnoxious or make other’s feel bad/jealous.
I’ve got a great thing going and thank my lucky stars every day.
My advice- keep on doing what you’re doing and maybe try to find some other people that are more positive so they don’t bring you down. There’s a lot of hardship in this world. You’re one of the lucky ones.
Oh by the way, when I was in my previous marriage and raising 2 small kids, I was depressed and exhausted all the time too. So not judging others….I’ve been there. Just happy to be on the other side of it now!
I can see how you would feel guilty, but embrace the good life you have. There’s a reason why these ladies are in your life…maybe your happiness will lift their spirits. Count your blessings and always show gratitude for what you have. You are very fortunate.
Don’t feel guilty…nothing wrong at ALL about being happy…that’s what lifes about…crap happens to people around you what can you do but grow from it…and maybe help out a friend in need^_^for these ladies in your life, maybe your in their life to help them see the brighter side of things to help them see something that may or may not have lost track of.
I applaud you. We need more people in the world like you to be inspirational to others.