Angry with friends who are trying to “Help”
Posted by Angry with friends in Friends on Apr 14th, 2010 | 4 commentsI am going through a rough time. Separating from my husband, we have two children 5 and 2 yrs old.
Just found out that I’m losing my job in a few months (at least I have time to find a new one, if there’s one out there).
Because of money, Ex and I are still living in the same house (been separated for 5 months and he has a new girlfriend).
When I talk to my best friends about it, they just say that I’m crazy and give me all sorts of advice. I don’t necessarily WANT the advice. All I want is a friendly ear, not people who will talk down to me and tell me that I’m nuts for doing what I’m doing. They aren’t and have never been in my situation. Do they not get that all I want is the proverbial “shoulder”? I have told them that before, but to no avail.
Now, I choose not to talk to them at all, nor to talk to anyone because all I want is someone to listen. My friends aren’t listening. They’re just talking.
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I can understand dear,Its very touh situation for you.this is a good way to release your stree through online confessions
oh hun, welcome to the group of us ladies who have been in your shoes, my ex decided that he didnt want the “family life” anymore and left me with two girls, I felt like I was going to die, friends gave me advise, but all i wanted was someone to just shut up and listen… i hated everyone, no one would listen, even still, its been years later and I still get the same old same from friends, and ohhh by the way trust no one… found out that there is NO loyalty when it comes to friends and ex’s found that out the hard way, my friends knew my ex was screwing around and not one of them told me, they all sat back and watched it unfold… talk about heartless eh, and these are my friends.. ya right, I learned real quick who my real friends were, but still they even had a hard time with just listening until I got a voice and said what I needed, I was firm yet loving…
for me writing everything I went threw helped, I still write, I’ve kept a journal for 18 years now, so maybe one day my girls will see that there mom was one tough broad back inthe day! LOL
if you’d like a emai shoulder to lean on.. Im right here… and I’ll listen ; )
Thanks to both of you. It is hard, but I do know that I will pull through.
tis never easy , and as you say you just wish you had someone who would listen not judge etc , am willing to listen , as am sure many are , try to keep faith and look for the right people who can respect and understand