The most self-concious girl ever.
Posted by Anonymous in Fear on May 21st, 2010 | 10 commentsI’m 13 years old, and for about a year and a half. I have being so self concious i can’t bare it no more, im very tall, but also VERY skinny… I have a birth (strawberry) mark at the top of my right arm, and on my left arm i have a mole (birth mark) about the size of a bean. I am so ashamed, i’ve never showed my arms EVER. I never wear long sleeved tops, and i hate P.E in school because of this, i always cover my mole up with a plaster, it sounds stupid but thats how self concious i am. I am a size 32A in bra size, and i am so self concious because all my friends look perfect to me, perfect figures, I know your going to say that my body is going through changes, but I just want help, I want to be like the other girls, to be able to wear short tops and shorts and not have to pile on leggings to make my legs look fatter. I havent got a balenced diet and im a very fussy eater. Im not anorexic though, just skinny… How can i become more happy with myself and be proud of who i am and not care what other people think of me?:(
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By the way i meant short sleeved tops**
You probably wont be able to fully understand at this point but really… everyone else is too wrapped up in themselves during school to worry all that much about you. Learn to love yourself and people will love you because you do.
My first suggestion is to get over your flaws. Let them be known. Don’t try to hide yourself or you will succeed more than you ever wanted to.
I haven’t met a woman yet who is happy with their body. I’m 29 years old and have never been happy with mine. I bet if you asked these girls who have “perfect” bodies they could find a thousand flaws a minute and point them all out. The truth of the matter is that you will never be happy with who you are if you’re constantly critisizing yourself and comparing yourself to others. It takes a lot of hard work for a person to accept themselves the way they are. And, yes, 13 is a very rapidly changing age for your body. I was flat chested at 13 years old and only a couple years later I was a C cup and have been ever since. Just go with the flow, be yourself, and be a kid while it lasts. Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself and try not to be over critical. Tell yourself what you would tell any friend if she came to you with body issues. Tell yourself you look great and people like you for who you are. Smile at your reflection and tackle the world one step at a time. Take Care.
You’ve received some good advice here. Might I add by saying that it took me until I was in my 40′s to accept my body and other women were envious of my small waist.. I hated my small breasts… thought that breasts were important. Wait till some guy treats you like nothing but a toy and ask yourself how important breasts are then.
I went through the same exact thing besides the mole and birthmark on my arm..and until this day i am self conscious but i will tell you one thing being skinny and tall is not bad its beautiful and you should consider modeling because what may be ugly to you will be gorgeous to the next person and trust me you will grow into your body. You are only 13 give yourself time your still growing..I’m 20 and i actually like the way i look..trust me you’ll be happy with yourself but really consider modeling
It is really hard to build up confidence in yourself, especially when you are a teenager – really difficult times! I guarentee you every single girl and boy in your school will feel the same way about themselves. They may not show it but EVERYONE is self conscious of something, be it a personality trait or something to do with physical appearance. The ones who are overbearingly confident are usually that way to hide their insecurities even more!
No one can make you happy, only you can do this for yourself. Focus on the things in life which make you happy – maybe you have a hobby or something you enjoy? If not, maybe you could join a club and get involved in doing something? This could help you build your confidence and feel part of a group. Good luck and don’t worry, it will get easier :)
Omg! I wish i was like you. Tall and skinny girls are like, models. I’m average height, and put on a bit of weight; i’m very self-conscious about my fat legs.
You’re so lucky! I’ve always wanted to be tall and skinny because i’ve always wanted to model, but i guess i’m a bit too short for that.. i’m 5″5.
You should not bring yourself down, I’d die for your body.
I’m a guy who’s 6’4″ and theoretically 30-40 pounds underweight. I by no means have an eating disorder and I eat a very healthy amount. I used to feel abnormally skinny and freakishly tall, especially with mean comments because it’s okay to make fun of skinny people, but it doesn’t bother me so much anymore.
Regardless of how you think you look, feel like you’re deserving of someone that makes you happy, and not someone you think you’re “worth”. Never sell yourself short.
as for the mole. I had one on my hip and I have another on my thigh (both bean sized). I actually just removed the one I could, but the other I just have to make do with. You’d be surprised how much people don’t care or even think its cute. Birthmarks aren’t ugly at all by the way.
I know I can’t relate as much because I’m not a girl, but I definitely think you should value yourself highly as a person no matter what. In your life, you are the main protagonist.
I`m 12 years old and understand COMPLETELY!!!! people always say how skinny i am and they are right for there age. and its like everyone`s always judging me on how i look! or how act!
Girl, people would KILL to be as tiny as you (myself included)!!! I was tall and thin at your age and was self concious about it too. Now that I’m in my mid twenties I’d give anything to get my flat little tummy back. And those marks? Those are BEAUTY marks! You are model material sweetie! Look at the models in fashion shows.. SMALL chests, tall, and skinny! You don’t need to wear short shirts and skirts to be attractive! Girls like that attract guys with the wrong intentions. You want someone who wants you for your intelligence, which you clearly have!
P.S. I’m flat chested too, pay a visit to victorias secret, they have a new bra that makes you look TWO CUP SIZES BIGGER! Best investment I’ve made in a while! ;)