scared of intimacy
Posted by anonymous in Fear on Oct 21st, 2008 | 7 commentsThe idea of having sex really scares me…my friends tell me how beautiful i am, but when i look in the mirror all i want is to look like someone else…
how could anyone love me or bear to look at me naked when i cant like my own face!
perhaps its because i was fostered and adopted lots of times that i cant learn to love myself….how can i when so many of my ‘parents’ couldnt bring themselves to love me?
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I DON’T KNOW YOU BUT I LOVE YOU. PLEASE TAKE CARE.
of course they can’t,because apparently they are people with no qualifications to be parents…
being a parent is about loving and taking care of your child,and they didn’t do that.
i have a feeling that when they took you,it was just to make themselves feel better.they did a very poor job,because apparently you’re smart,and they didn’t care except about themselves…
so start saying words that i’m beautiful.even if you don’t believe them at first,you will eventually…because although I don’t know you,i can figure out from the way you wrote that u are beautiful for sure from the inside,and that’s what matters at the end of the day…
my fav writer says..no body wud love u untill n unless u love ur ownself…
u r special u r individual u r unique..
so be urself…
u hav the potential atlest to say anything about ur ownself n ur surroundings..
speak out n be relaxed..
i m here to listen to u….
take good care..
honey, i don’t think You were the problem! Lots of people just can’t handle having kids and apparently these foster parents thought they were renting from Blockbuster or something, they are the troubled ones!
But considering your background i don’t see how it would have been possible for you to feel lovable. And that wasn’t your fault but now you are an adult and you are responsible for yourself. Love yourself enough to go get some help to work through that stuff. Give yourself a chance, you deserve it! And I love you and I mean that, I feel love in my heart for you because I know what you are feeling. Don’t go through this alone =)
when i was a boy, people around me often said i was very lovely and cute. But when i looked at the mirror, i had a strange feeling and thought i was disgusting and ugly. i once said to my mom that i looked like a ghost in the mirror(in Chinese it means very ugly), who then scolded me for saying so.
i now think this might be the problem of self-acceptance. i did so probably cos i at the first place did not accept myself as a human being. I dont know what bad things ever happened to me when i was very small. Maybe it is genetic. I seemed to suffer depression when there was nothing to be depressed about.
If someone wants to sleep with you they probably already think you are hot. If they want to spend 3 weeks with you before they sleep with you they probably really like you.
omg i feel the same way, but mabe cuz im 13 but still!!!!!i wood die if a boy even saw me in a bra becuz i look grose!!!!!!!!trust me i understand u!!!!!!!!but i cant understand how peepl CAN just hav sex and look at eech other and tuch eechother it is VERY confusing to me tooo!!!!!!!