my boyfriend just beat me
Posted by andrea in Fear on Mar 12th, 2010 | 9 commentsi just got beat by my boyfriend of 6 months.
he spit in my face. dragged me by my hair. punched
my head it. bashed my head into a coffee table.
i even called the cops on him……. and i still love him.
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Of course you still love him. And you’re in shock and hurting, inside and out. You will continue to love him for a long time. But get out. Go somewhere safe where he can’t get to you, and don’t let him talk you into coming back to him, saying he will never do it again. He will. Don’t go back. Your life may depend on it.
One day he will tie you with a rope a drag you with his car and all you will say then is you still love him.I guess its time for some deep thinking otherwise you will end up being handicapped for the rest of you life.
im sorry to hear that.
Find the nicest, ugliest man you know and leave your boyfriend for him. Then go to therapy and work our your abandonment issues. It’ll work out.
I couldn’t agree more with a comment on this page. Please, do exactly what this person is saying.
that when god pushed the “ERRR YOUR WRONG” button on your life :] you have to think oh so carefully with issues like this. yes u may love him but look what hes done to you! u deserve better! stop saying u love him cuz u know its wrong! yes u know him as the man u love but hes revealed the monster underneath >:( so for you own sake and safety think this out oh so carefully and maybe even a lil proffesional help is good to :]
You poor, poor girl. I hope you will be okay. You don’t deserve this. Nobody deserves this. I completely understand. I know it doesn’t sound like i understand after i tell you this, but i completely do. I’m only 14, but my mom just got herself out of a relationship like yours. She loved him then, and loves him now. She will always love him, no matter what. He was doing cocaine behind her back. She still loved him, and tried to break up with him when she found out because, having kids and not wanting to screw up her own life, she couldn’t stay with him. They got back together when he said he was clean months later. They vacationed together in the Dominican Republic, and my mom came back with a black eye and a chunk of hair missing from her head.She said the hair braiding lady ripped out her hair, and that she hit her head off the edge of the pool. I was only 9, so i believed her. This year, she told me the truth, that he beat the crap out of her that night. Unbelievably, she stayed with him. After her beat her again, she left him. they were apart for a year or two, and just last month they got back together. I was so angry at her. how could she trust him again? How could I trust him? i couldn’t. But she still loved him. Well, it was surprising when my mom told me they were going to “ALPHA” church meetings together once a week (i thought this was dumb, only because im an athiest) because they were trying to change his ways “with the help of jesus.” (bullshit). My mom thought it was working, until they went to a party together a week or two ago. Did i mention he was also an alcoholic? She loved him. Well, the meetings certainly weren’t working because her drank too much and beat her again. My mom still loved him, but she was smart enough to know that this was the last time. She persevered, she tried to help, to change him, but nothing worked. You can’t change anyone no matter what you do or how hard you try. She left him for good and filed a restraining order against him, for her own good, to keep herself from going back. He didn’t only damage her phsysically, but he also damaged her emotionally and mentally. You may not realize it yet, but your boyfriend did this to you too. Do not give it another try because it will go nowhere. Don’t try to change him because it won’t work. My mom’s boyfriend had childhood anger issues and problems with his dad, maybe your boyfriend has some stuff he needs to work out too. Everyone needs time on their own to sort out how they want their own life to go. I strongly suggest not going back even if he does sort himself out. He may seem to have changed and tell you he did but he didn’t. No matter how many times he apologizes or how heartfelt it is, accept it but still move on. I know it will be one of the hardest things you will ever do but it will also be one of the best things you ever do for yourself. Get out of that relationship now, and if you want, file a restraining order. To keep BOTH of you away from each other. You will always love him, and that will never go away, but you need to do what’s best for you. One day, you’ll find someone just as good who treats you right in every way. You’ll still love him then, and you will still think about him, but as long as you know you are better off apart and you have a great man where you are, you’ll be fine without him. My mom and I wish you the best of luck.
- Kate
I know you love him. But someone who treats you or any human being like that is cruel. I think he should go to jail. Find a better man who loves you for you and will not beat you.
Yeah well, you would. Do what the rest of womanhood does, make sure and have kids with him then finally get out of it and meet somene who treats you with respect and then make him pay for your ****** up life and a messed up kid. Do the world a favor and stay with him … you deserve each other .