RSSI Can’t Even Tell Myself
I’m 17 yr old girl and I am attracted to girls. I don’t like to refer to myself as a lesbian or gay. I am a virgin but I just would prefer to be with the girl that I work with over a guy. I’m just not attracted to them. Everyone knows she likes me but I deny being a lesbian. But I never say that I do not like her. I actually think I love her. She is amazing. I mean we flirt around all of the time. There was even an instance where I wanted to kiss her, but I couldn’t find the courage. I believe that she knows that I like her, but I don’t think she will say anything until I admit it.
I also have this fear of my family. They are strictly against any form of homosexuality. My sister would literally try to kill me. She has said it jokingly, but I know that she means it. She thinks that it is disgusting. My mother and grandmother would probably try to pray the demons of homosexuality out of me! It kills me to know that I “will” be disowned if I ever pursue this relationship. I just want to be with her.
Christina on December 14th 2007 in Fear
Pensive said on 15 Dec 2007 at 4:53 am # Quote
If you belong to a church and there is a licensed counsellor there, you can confide in that person and get helpful advice. Your family need not know anything about it.
It seems you may be smart to sit down privately with the woman you mentioned and talk this out. At least you can clear the air and not be so stressed out about your situation.
Claire said on 20 Dec 2007 at 2:07 am # Quote
i think you should go for it, even if your family doesn’t agree. Afterall, they are your family! I’m sure they’d still love you even if you were doing something they didn’t like.
Good Luck!
Dee said on 23 Dec 2007 at 11:01 am # Quote
You should go for it and see what happens or you will forget it for the rest of your life.
matias said on 26 Dec 2007 at 5:43 am # Quote
i really think God made man & woman to be together and i’m NOT homophobic nor a gay hater but i do think its wrong. The bible says that everything is allowed but not everything is convenient & if u think bout it being in such a relation is not really convinient. Now if u talk about love i can tell u this i’ve been in a relationship for 2 years and a half on the distance and i can tell u (even though i think my girl is the most beautifull ever) love has nothing 2 do with physical attraction, but about understanding supporting careing, and so many other things (read corinthians (book of the bible) 13). just liking being with the other person is not enough, u have 2 be able to reveal everything, and (i don’t mean 2 sound offensive) u can’t find that with a person of the same sex. if i were u i’ll talk to this person and tell her that it would not work and if the feelings keep coming i move from the job. this is kinda a very delicate subject and i hope i didn’t sound sexist or offensive. i’ll be praying
amanda said on 30 Dec 2007 at 6:18 pm # Quote
Honestly i would go with my heart if you like her take things slow and let everything fall into place you can’t help who you fall in love with my mother is married to a woman and when it was first revealed to the family no one accepted it only me her daughter understood and i was 11 at the time but time went on and the family finally came around and now no one has an issue with her choices this is your life and your choices you only get to live your life once so why not live it happy don’t go by what others think or want you to do ,do what you want to do and if that means to be with the same sex then so be it…….There your family and i know your scard of thier reactions but thier your family and they will love you no matter what ,the way i see it is they would want you to do what makes you happy .
j said on 04 Jan 2008 at 1:35 pm # Quote
I think you should just go for it! You might lose the love of your life! just say that she is your best friend. And then tell them when you are ready to come out of the closet
izzy said on 09 Jan 2008 at 7:16 am # Quote
girl just go for it!!! your family doesn’t need to know right away. like J said, you may lose the love of your life!! talk to the girl, tell her your situation, and about your family. if she’s worth it, she’ll understand. maybe she’s in the same situation too! go girl!! good luck!
frizzy said on 27 Feb 2008 at 3:07 am # Quote
i rele think u shudn’t be in favour of dat..things will works out i am sure..better change your outlook..
linda said on 27 Feb 2008 at 4:22 am # Quote
when you start running your life on what others think ,then your living thier life not yours””””””””’think about it