How long to be a doormat
Posted by Single mummy in Fear on Aug 17th, 2010 | 7 commentsHe made me love him, he drew me and made me love him! 3 months later after a perfect relationship I was pregnant. I’m so happy he says, can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you he says, I love you he says. We went to wedding fairs, he chose the ring, he picked our wedding song! Then, at 37 weeks pregnant I find he’s texting a girl from work. I love you he says to her, I miss you he says to her, I want you he says to her! I confront him and my he’ll begins! He claims he doesn’t know what he wants, he’s too young to be a dad, he can’t do what he wants when he wants! It’s rocky for a few days then he decides he wants to make it work. I’ll make the sacrifices and we’ll talk about our feelings he promices me. 5 days later I go into labour and after the worst pain in my life I deliver our baby girl! While in the hospital, less than 24 hours after the birth of our child I see his phone. Words can’t describe what you mean to me he says to her! I hold it in, don’t tell him I know but it tears me up inside.
Today is 4 weeks after that day, he still texts her but promises it’s just friends. We talk. I tell him I saw the message that day. I don’t know what I want he tells me, I’m too young to be a dad he tells me, and I die inside.
He’s gone to work now and I sit here wondering whether to stay and find out whether he wants me or make the jump first. My only issue is I love hi
and don’t know how to be without him but I’m angry because he pulled me in, promised he would never leave, was going to marry me!
I pray he loves me enough to stay but don’t know how to forgive the hurt he caused me. I pray that I won’t be alone and loose the live if my life and father if my child. I pray that I’ll survive.
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He’s scared. I am sure you are too. First child, right? That is a big deal. Life changes a lot.
It sounds like you can’t fully trust him. Sounds like he can’t fully trust himself. It is not fair to you!
Three months is a short time to be together before having a baby. You both entered into parenthood with this as a challenge. Give yourself credit for that!
Honestly, this is not a healthy relationship dynamic right now. You are going through a lot, and need support. It sounds like he is not sure if he can give you the support you need. Be clear with him. Tell him what you need. If he can’t give it to you, you may need to break it off.
leave the cheating sucker. having an emotional relationship with someone other than your significant other is still cheating
He does not love you.
Leave, him because he will leave you eventually. Save yourself some time, and move on.
I suggest going home to your parents and focusing on you and your baby instead of that loser. Be sure to file for child support.. you’re too good for him
i have sean cases like this before, and believe me when i tell you to leave him know that you can, because this is what will happen (not might):
-Hi finally takes responsability and you two get marry.
-After a year or so he gets another woman, and might have a children with her.
-You will eventualy discover it, and you two will eventualy in fights because of that, in that case you two will decide to not divorse because of the child you have.
-Your child will grow up with this constanly fights betowen you two and will think that you dont love him and will start go to the streets to fill more acepted and loved and the thinks will get works and works.
So please, if you want to avoid all the sarrow and pain from you and your child, leave him know that none of this have happend yet ( by the way, this is the story of my parents, the only that differ its that i dint end up in the streets).
I stayed, things are ok but still a bit rough. I don’t know whether it will work out yet, he still doesn’t know what he wants and to be honest neither do I! I want the best for my baby, if that ends up in us being appart then so be it but I feel as though I have to try! Thank you for your advice, I do really appreciate it x
Leave him before the little girl gets too attatched, he obviously doesnt love or respect you, wake up woman. You rushed into things way too quickly, you say he made you love him. How is that possible, you are responsible for your own actions, now you are resposible for your little girl too.