Destiny?
Posted by Anonymous in Fear on Sep 15th, 2010 | 10 commentsOk, so ever since I was 7 yrs old, Ive known my destiny. Ive known what I am supposed to do with my life. But I have always been a shy, reserved person that keeps to myself. Im a Christian and I strongly believe that everybody has a pupose. Most people spend years searching for their destiny, but Ive known mine my whole life. My destiny strongly contradicts with the type of person I am. Usually the type of person who does this is extroverted, loves attention, doesnt mind speaking in public, all of those things Im not. My destiny is music. To sing, to write songs, to create this most beautiful art that is on this planet. Every fiber of my being has a passion for music. Its not only that I want to do it, Im actually really good at it. Im a very good singer, I can tell what certain aspects of songs makes it popular, I always know songs months before they are popular. I LOVE music. Absolutely love it. I know Im supposed to do this, but I dont think I can. Its the complete opposite of who I am. I cant even give a speech infront of 20 students. My throat closes up, and I cant even get a word out. How am I supposed to sing to millions??? I believe God chose me to do this because Im not like many other people. I know I just to have faith in Him that I can do this,…I can do this… its just so hard. I feel like Im all alone. I dont know what to do. Should I do what God made me to do, even though I know it will be hard but I will be the happiest I can ever be? Or do I do whats safe and easy and just be content?
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I know exactly what you mean, except whereas your passion is music, mine is writing. You’ve got to start by putting yourself out there, a little bit by little bit. One of the first steps I think you can do is take a public speaking class. Maybe then take an all levels dance class. Sometimes having people see you mess up, makes it that much easier to do things right. Maybe do a few youtube vids, but not of your own songs unless its copyright. Another out-there sport is jiujitsu. Not the greatest sport in my opinion (esp. if you’re a chick) but it makes you comfortable. The same anxiety you get about singing to a whack of people is almost the same anxiety you get during jiu jitsu. So it would be like a practice run for singing.
Why don’t you start by making an anonymous page on facebook or myspace or youtube where your music is and you can let people hear your music ideas and develop some confidence. Then maybe you can get with some sort of band and go to small places to play. Speaking can be really different than singing, so If you want to sing, learning to speak in front of people means nothing!
I agree, I have always known my destiny too, it’s hard to explain. I keep having signs here and there that show me that i”m going in the right direction
God gives us gifts but its not for us to enjoy its for the world. To touch lost souls, as a christian we are servants, meaning we serve.If we.don’t do what we’re called to do,those people who could of been save thru our gifts won’t b reached then we have to answer to our creator on judgment day. Do u want to stand n front of God and say I was afraid to do your will?
I too have a similar issue. I wish I was a professional musician but I can’t handle the criticism and the selling part of the music business for the sake of making a living as a musician. Ironically, I don’t have a problem being a salesperson.
A while back I joined a church choir. I overheard a young man saying “I have to sing because God gave me this gift, and if I don’t use it for Him, He’ll take it away.” Well, I hadn’t played “for God” in my 40 years before, and left the choir a few years ago and still play.
Another thought would be to take acting lessons. This may help you develop the alter ego you may need to achieve the goal of singing in front of many people. It’s what many pro singers have had to do.
I’m a musician. I am also skittish about being in front of a crowd. Probably not as skittish as it sounds like you are, but nerve-wracked just the same. Here are a couple of observations that I hope might help:
1) Nearly everybody that goes on stage to do their thing is nervous as hell about it. It is a rare individual – your David Lee Roth types – that thrives on that type of thing. Most regular people get all weirded out by displaying themselves before a group of strangers, much less friends.
2) Try to find a gathering of people in your area that get together on a regular basis and play the type of music you’re into. Not a band, just a jam circle. It’s kind of a cool way to ease into singing before strangers, who will probably become friends. From there, there are always open mics, etc…
3) I’ve been in bands, and even fronted a band once. I am nervous every single time. A thing to realize, though, is that if you love the music that you’re playing, and you love playing the music, focus on that – the music – and not the fear of being on stage. Once you can do that, you’ll be as awesome as you know that you can be, and you’ll feel the appreciation of the people that you’re playing for, and that will make you do your thing even better. It’s kind of a positive feedback loop.
I hope this helps.
Go see a psychotherapist or some kind of professional who can help you learn how to manage your phobia
I know what you mean. What I have learned is that if God is created you to be something, He will give you the courage to do what you need to do. I feel like God has called me to be a public speaker, but I am terrified of crowds and having people focus on me.
You will never be content if you are less than what God wants you to be. He never said it would be easy, but that it would be worth it in the end. I look forward to hearing your beautiful voice on the radio.
“God is looking for people through whom He can do the impossible-what a pity that we plan only the things we can do by ourselves.” A.W. Tozer
in high school, i was much like you. In time i got over my nerves, many of my friends i had for years knew nothing of my singing, writing or playing guitar. One night when the rest of my friends were at the store, I grabbed a nearby guitar and played for a female friend that i worked with. Her jaw dropped, it was all the validation i needed. If you love it do, what you you love. I gave up on my dream, and i think the world was worse off for it. If you write from the heart and sing from the sould I am sure you will find the courage to just be you. Thats all god really expects from us is to be best version of ourself that we can be. To quote a song long covered in dust. “dont bother consequence tomorrow, do the best you can then” I wish you all the luck.
Hi I read that the secret of being brave is not scaring other people. I think we all scare each other in ways that we don’t realise. Try focusing on doing that and your fear will go.