The case for us…

Posted by in Family on Jun 4th, 2011 | 2 comments

I’m afraid I’m pregnant and I am not ready to change our lives. We’re getting married soon and I just want to live through that first. I wish you would stop passive aggressively telling me we need to have one sooner. I’m barely into my twenties and I want to graduate and feel accomplished before I pop out a kid. I am afraid a baby will change who I am. I finally love me and I don’t want to lose that. Getting married is a big enough step for now.

Please, stop pressuring me. If I’m pregnant we’ll live with it, but you can’t carry me through this one. It’s not selfish to think about how a baby will affect my body and personality.

2 Responses to “ “The case for us…”

  1. Do you says:
    June 4, 2011 at 1:10 pm

    It certainly is not! And I commend you on being so self-aware at a young age. Look, if you dont think you are ready to have a baby, dont. It is THE WORST thing that you can do. If you want to marry this man, concentrate on the marriage and then see how that goes. I had a baby before I was ready and now it is a constant battle to put her needs before my own, be nurturing and loving. i often feel that she can feel my resentment toward her. I do love her with all my heart but for sure, I was not ready. And I was not as aware of myself as you were. Do you, graduate, go to college, go to grad school enjoy your youth and good looks and young body now, because once youve crossed over into motherhood…… it is a game changer.

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  2. Reply says:
    July 30, 2011 at 9:47 pm

    You had to think about it before getting pregnant?

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