Sometimes I Feel Like I Can’t Do This ‘Single Mom’ Thing!
Posted by Jules in Family on Dec 9th, 2010 | 6 commentsI know that I did the right thing in leaving my controling, manipulative husband, but sometimes I feel like I can’t manage my life and be a good mother on my own! And, I don’t mean that I have to do it all by myself. He’s a good father and has them 50% of time. In fact, they don’t give him as much grief as they do me (I’ve seen it), which makes me feel even more inadequate! Why are other kids better behaved? I’m fair but firm…until I can’t take it (whining, crying, asking, begging) anymore!!!! Today is one of those days. I know that in an hour I’m going to pick up my son and daughter (5 and 6) and the whining/crying will begin. The thought of that has me in tears at my desk. And, I am about to go after my ex for child support (I agreed to just let him just pay for the kids’ expenses), so I can’t complain to him or ask him for help. I just want to cry!!!!!! But, that will get me nowhere. I feel so helpless! I think that I will go call a girlfriend for some encouragement/moral support. I am luck to have that. =)
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You did the right thing by leaving an abusive man. However, you are not a single mom since he shares custody with you and has them 50% of the time. Divorce is difficult on children too. You are going through a lot (an emotional roller coaster) and it will take a long time to heal from this. You are on edge because of everything you’re going through, which makes it very difficult to deal with the crying and whining. You have my sympathy. When your kids are with your ex try to take time to do something for yourself. You need an outlet. I wish you the very best. Peace.
Thank you for taking the time to respond and I know that you are ‘right on the money’! I’ve become more firm in my discipline and that has helped. I also had an amazing energy balancing Reiki session, which helped to relax and calm me. It’s still working after two weeks! Thanks, again. It’s nice to hear compassion and support from others such as yourself! I hope that you are also doing really well! I am very optimistic about the year ahead!!! My best to YOU.
I agree with the last comment. I am recently going through the exact same thing. one thing that keeps me going is knowing my ex is a great dad, if her were not life would be a lot harder. My little one is better for him as well and it makes me so upset, I dont know if she is upset becuase I was the one that left ( for good reasons)or if it is just for attention. I just hope she grows out of it, it is hard enough for me and I have very little patience for the crying and whining!
Thank you for taking the time to respond. I’ve become more firm in my discipline and that has helped. I also had an amazing energy balancing Reiki session, which helped to relax and calm me. It’s still working after two weeks! Thanks, again. It’s nice to hear compassion and support from others such as yourself! I hope that you are also doing really well! I am very optimistic about the year ahead!!! My best to YOU.
i feel angry and upset when i read/hear stories like this, i am a single father (wife passed away) and i would love to help each and every one of you out in any way that i could…….
Thank you for taking the time to read my comment and respond. I appreciate your compassion. I know that I will get there. And, I wish you the very best as well!