Sick of being taken advantage of by my family.
Posted by Want to Run!! in Family on May 21st, 2010 | 5 commentsI am a stay at home housewife, mom and grandmother; I however do work online as well as go to school. I bring home almost as much as my husband. I have to watch my grandchildren while my son works, do the housework, try to get through school, and work online every day. I am tired!! The grandchildren always want attention as does my older children. I work all day up taking care of everyone’s needs but mine and work up until bedtime trying to stay caught up with my homework and work. Then on the weekend I am expected to take care of my grandchildren, again. Everything is about my husband and children; I am getting lost amongst their needs and wants. I have expressed my sadness, frustration, anger etc. with my family but nothing changes. I really don’t think they care or love me very much, I mean if they did they would care that I am sad and frustrated about the way things are. I am on the verge of running away. I can understand why some people run away from their families and change their identity. But I won’t run because I really don’t want to cut all ties with my husband, my children or grandchildren. I just want them to understand that I am a person who has needs, wants and dreams and that what I want and who I am is important too. I have raised my children, now I want a life of my own with my husband, is that so selfish??
5 Responses to “ “Sick of being taken advantage of by my family.”
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No thats not a lot to ask for. However sometimes we need to put a boot up thier rear end in order for them to listen. This is what you do…go away for an entire weekend and tell NO ONE!!!! Let them sweat it out. Book a room at a local hotel and indulge yourself. Get caught up on your homework and basically make it a me me me type of affair. The message will sink in!!!
Good Luck
Oh I so agree with Bubear50!!! at some point us mom’s or gram’s HAVE to be selfish and think of ourselves. If we arent ok then the whole family wont be, like that saying goes, if mama aint happy aint nobody happy!!!! and thats so true!!!! DONT FORGET WHO YOU ARE!!!!!
I like Bubear50′s Idead.
They get the stress of you running away but you dont really do it.
People might get pissed off at you but im sure their dependancy for you outweights the anger that they might retain.
Do IT, take the leap.
Enjoy your weekend :)
Nope..NOT AT ALL! Tell your son he has 2 weeks to find another daycare provider…and that you will only take your grandchild on occasional weekends. Be strong and mean what you say. Its their problem if they dont like it… not yours! Be Free!
My grandma was in the same position like 25 years ago. She had spent her whole life raising babies and just about the time her children were grown grandchildren came along. She paid for daycare just to catch a break.