RSSone big happy family
i know this sounds like i’m whining
but i’m 31 and i support my whole family
no one ever says thank you i work at night which is even more stressful there are 2 other able bodied adults whom could work i don’t care where burger king mcdonalds at least help me but they don’t I ‘m treated like an outsider I often stay in my room
alone they never tell me anything until it’s too late I moved back in to help out
I love my family but if i knew this was gonna happen I would have kept my apartment
they have no idea how upset i feel and if i try to express my feelings they make me feel guilty Im so stressed and tired I on meds for depression and anxiety I know there has got to be something better I do have a loving boyfriend and his family adores meand they don’t under stand why i put up with this i don’t know I just wish I knew what to do any suggestions
ANONYMOUS on April 15th 2008 in Family
Gamer said on 15 Apr 2008 at 8:01 pm # Quote
I’m not sure exactly how your family treats you, but it’s possible that they completely do appreciate you, but they just don’t have a way to show it. I would know, I do that to my parents, too. (Bad, I know….) It would be rather awkward for someone to say “Thank you for working and supporting the family” out of nowhere, unless there was a crisis or something. Or perhaps they’re just taking it for granted. You can try leaving some room for them to thank you (no idea how, you’ll have to think that up yourself!), or take a vacation and see how well they can support themselves without you.
Princess Starbucks said on 16 Apr 2008 at 1:22 am # Quote
There comes a point in your life that you have to start looking out for you. As long as you fail to communicate your concerns to your family then nothing will ever change. You are the one supporting this family therefore; you have every right to take charge of that household. If people in that house are not receptive to your concerns then either you leave or tell them to leave. Go back to your apartment where you were content to begin with…..FYI- there is many ways to show appreciation. They should be doing everything maintenance wise in that house and out side the house if they are home all day doing nothing.
Alexander said on 16 Apr 2008 at 2:11 am # Quote
I live the same situation and sometimes thoughts like these come to me. But then I remember that I’m doing this because I want to do it and because I care for my family. Of course, a “thank you” is very nice, but it does not really matters.
SPEAK OUT said on 17 Apr 2008 at 10:48 am # Quote
first of all you need to break out of ur silent mode you in and start letting these ppl around to start pulling their own weight and make those two other ppl who can work get a job cause ask yourself this question what use are you to them or to yourself dead or overdosed on meds leave the meds one side and take a stand for yourself and ur health ALL FREE LOADERS GET A JOB love has nothing to do with this anymore this is what is called ADVANTAGE AND ABUSE of someones kindness you need to put a stop to it and stop letting make you feel guilty DAMN what is it you should be feeling guilty for NOT A DAMN THING ur the one whose doing everything they surviving off of you they should the ones feeling guilty they need to put up and shut up and get with the program get a job you said you got a bf that loves you his family loves you look you got choices here choose and give ur family a deadline change their ways either you move out go live with ur bf ppls for awhile till you find ur own apt or you put up with it and look around for a apt and you break ur news on them last minute then that will force one of them to get a job you know the saying blood is thicker than water well in case you need to oil instead of blood cause oil and water never cant mix you choose