My dad doesn’t care

I’m fifteen and my dad doesn’t like the fact that I have a boyfriend, but my mom is understanding and likes him. This past weekend I was assigned a huge Greek mythology project, which was 416 points. I asked my dad two days ago if I could go over to his house and work on it. He was alright with it. So last night, I thought it would be a good idea to invite him over for supper for helping me get it done. My dad wasn’t home at the time, so I asked my mom. She allowed. He came over and we were talking. My dad came home. and saw my boyfriends car was here and he walked somewhere, he didn’t even come in and say hello. So, we ate supper and then went out in the yard to play badminton. Everyone was having a good time and it was getting dark, so we came up on the porch. My boyfriend was eating a piece of pie and drinking a drink when my dad walked home, drunk. He came up on the porch and my boyfriend greeted him and said hello. All the drunk said was ‘Hi, I think its time for you to leave.’ Immediately my boyfriend said thanks for dinner and left. It started a big fight. My mom and sister started in at yelling at my dad for acting so rude to guests and everything. Although it did no good, I started yelling as well. A lot was said, and he told me that he wanted me to put my cell phone on the counter along with my laptop. Infuriated, all i could was ‘How does it feel to want, dad? You don’t pay for them, therefore I’m not listening to you. and until you change your ways, accept that I’m going to date, and apologize to my boyfriend, DON’T talk to me.’ He was dumbfounded that I yelled like that and all he said was that he didn’t care if he paid for it or not it was his house and everything. I was like well, then leave. Nobody wants to deal with you. He just told me that I was free to leave whenever I wanted. and so I told him that I was going to leave. I walked out onto the porch and my mom followed. She told me to go back inside and all I could say was ‘Take me somewhere, please.’ She said no and walked back inside. The last thing I heard was my dad saying ‘She thinks I’m going to chase after her, she’s wrong. She can go. I’m not chasing her.’ I was like fine, then.. Don’t. and I just lost it. and ran in the woods. I could hear my mom and sister yelling for me. My uncle texted me and told me to text him or call him as soon as possible. Eventually, I came back. and we got in the car to go find my boyfriend. When we got home, the door was locked and all of the lights were out. We go inside and my dad was passed out on the couch. He didn’t care about me. He sat on the couch, and fell asleep. He didn’t care that his daughter ran off. He didn’t care enough to look for her. All he cared about was sleep. When I woke up this morning, he just laid on the couch. I don’t even know if he was awake or not. It hurts so bad knowing that your dad doesn’t care about you. I know he was drunk, but still.. ):

3 Responses to “ “My dad doesn’t care”

  1. Another daughter says:

    I had a similar father. He wasn’t a drunk, but he was otherwise mentally ill. I’m guessing your father hates himself as much as my father hated himself. My father killed himself six years ago. I am 39. And I remember similar fights with my father when I was your age.

    All I can offer you as words of advice are: Do not look to your father for love or approval, because he hates himself and doesn’t have the love and approval that you need. We all need love. He doesn’t have it. So, work around him. Don’t keep hoping or expecting it from him, because you will continue to be sad and disappointed.

    I will also say: Be thankful for your mother. She sounds like a wonderful woman. When you leave the house, she will still be there, suffering through your father’s alcoholism. Hug her every day and tell her, “Thank you for being my rock. I love you.” She needs it, trust me. And she needs you to be survive and to be safe and healthy, to leave the house and grow up and be successful despite your dad.

    So, live and be happy, but don’t expect love or anything from your father.

  2. jay says:

    he has always been the provider/protector of you sister and mom, he sees another lion trying to invade his pack. he sees you as letting that lion in and betraying his pack. plus he loves u so much and hates to think of loosing his little girl. think about it. from a dad and husband

  3. ana says:

    i know ur father was wrong but i think u dont have respect for ur elders.i cant think of sreaming even he slaped me.By one incident u r judging where ur father love u or not?do u?

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