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i am 19 yrs old. one night i woke up from something very..well..i felt something on my bare foot but could not figure out what it was..(did not want to move cuz it was the middle of the night) well turns out that it was my brother (17)..he was rubbing his penis on me. i didnt know what to do. i just laid there until he eventually went back to his room(he didnt know i woke up).i cant tell my mom because i think of what kind of effect this will have on her and the rest of the family. i cant tell my bf for obviousw reasons..he comes into my room at nights,sometimes i wake up, and i dont do anything. ill pull my foot away and act as if i am waking up so he can run back to his room. i hate him for it. how can he do this to me? during the day he acts like nothing but at night.. i just dont know what to do. im scared. i act as if everything is ok i have conversations with him as if i have no idea what is going on but i am well aware. i feel as if i am living a twisted life with this deep dark secret that i can never tell anyone about..ever. i just..really dont know what to do. what does this mean? is he some kind of pervert that will lead a secret life and eventually go on to hurt other people? or is he just a curious virgin who wants to know what it feels like to rub on someone. the latter is what id like to believe just to give my lil brother the benefit of the doubt..but im scared of the first. im scared if i dont do anything about this he will get worse and do things to other ppl. but im scared of telling my parents because of what could happen..im scared this will haunt me for the rest of my life. i just dont know what to do
anonymous on September 13th 2008 in Family
Anonymous said on 15 Sep 2008 at 1:49 am # Quote
You aren’t the one doing anything wrong. You need to tell someone, for your own safety. Just because there are no physical wounds, what is happening is hurting you and whether or not your brother realizes this doesn’t matter. You need someone to step in and help you. This is, whether either of you realizes it, sexual assault.
Pex said on 15 Sep 2008 at 7:43 pm # Quote
Maybe you shuld see a psychiatrist, either a private one or one from yur school. This is a problem that needs professional help.
Anonymous said on 16 Sep 2008 at 4:29 pm # Quote
tell someone now it will haunt you, if u can’t, tell u brother if he does it again you will report him to the police he may get scared and leave you alone if that doesn’t work tell your parents
Anonymous said on 19 Sep 2008 at 11:53 pm # Quote
You are 19?? tell him to stop…you don’t have to say any more.
Beth said on 20 Sep 2008 at 12:50 am # Quote
Confront your brother privately and tell him you know what he’s been doing, and if it does not stop immediatley you will go to not only the family, but the authorities as well. Then seek counsel for yourself.
Daisy said on 20 Sep 2008 at 7:22 am # Quote
Confront him about it. If you don’t flat out tell him you don’t like it, he can keep thinking it’s no big deal and keep doing it. What if he gets bolder and starts doing other stuff? Don’t keep quiet. You have done nothing wrong. You’re not the one who should feel embarrassed or ashamed. If you want to discuss it online with someone in confidence and maybe discuss a strategy on how to talk to your brother about it, go here: http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/
anon said on 22 Sep 2008 at 12:47 am # Quote
Next time, take a camera to bed with you and if he does it again… snap … You’ve got em by the balls. Sorry, let me re-phrase that. You will have evidence and you will be sure he won’t do it again. Remember he is just a horny kid with no access to girls and he’s just curious. But it will stop in one second if he thinks there is any chance of someone finding out. Good luck.
grown said on 24 Sep 2008 at 4:48 am # Quote
what you should do is wake up the next time he comes in your room and starts with your foot and confront him. the boy has a foot fetish which allows him to jack off. don’t be angry even though yes you are being violated but try talking to him about why he’s doing it. i think the worst thing you could have done is avoided it for so long because it’s caused you mental stress and allow him to become more bold and comfortable with the fetish. nothing wrong with some fetishes but it’s matter of him understanding why he has this and not acting out with a family member. Think back to the first time he came in the room and had anything happended that day, etc. hope that helps otherwise therapy for you both is the next option. You can’t keep it quite forever since it’s affecting you this way and rightly so.
me said on 24 Sep 2008 at 8:18 pm # Quote
i say, next time, kick him hard as h*ll.
Onche said on 02 Oct 2008 at 3:40 am # Quote
Do Urself, Ur brother and everyone else a favour… Spill the beans on him. U could confront him directly when next he comes creeping into ur room. Get up and scold him. If he persists, tel Ur mum and lay ambush with her so she can witness it herself. If u let him contnue with his unrighteous acts U’ll have allowed room for what U fear may be the end result of his present acts. Be bold. Act now!
Anonymous said on 11 Oct 2008 at 4:25 am # Quote
SAY SOMETHIGN , TO HIM OR PARENTS, BEFORE IT GET’S OUT OF CONTROL. LIKE YOU ENDING UP GETTING RAPED
inDubai said on 24 Oct 2008 at 9:05 am # Quote
if you are afraid to confront him or tell your parents about it, at the very least do something to freak him out from trying again.
since Christmas is coming up you should be able to find a bell or something and attach a ribbon to it and hang it somewhere on your door so it will ring loudly…. don’t let him know you put it up though…just let him get shocked when he tries to enter your room.
it doesn’t have to be a bell… but find something that will make enough noise to freak him out and also loud enough to wake you up.