It’s complicated…

Posted by in Family on Jan 13th, 2011 | 4 comments

My bf and I have 2 wonderful kids who we both love dearly…the problem is…we hate each other. We can’t get along…I have a problem with his drinking, he says it’s not a problem. It’s the only thing we fight over…and tonight…it all came to a head…it’s over. We’re going to go our seperate ways…I should be relieved, but I’m heartbroken. I have always loved him…for 10yrs and even before he was mine to love…but he disrespects me constantly, with-holds money, won’t share any emotion, he basically shuns me unless we’re around friends/family.

So why do I feel like taking it all back and just dealing with it? I’m not happy here…but I have this crazy feeling like I’m asking too much of him..maybe me and the kids should stay and put on a happy face, say everything’s much much better…?

4 Responses to “ “It’s complicated…”

  1. Sarasota says:
    January 14, 2011 at 1:28 am

    Sounds to me like you’re used to being treated by your boyfriend and probably your family before that.
    My best advice, separate from him and learn how to make you and your kids a priority. You won’t be truly happy (and neither will your kids) until you do that. Taking care of yourself may sound like a foreign concept to you but if I can learn how to anyone can.. and stay out of relationships until you know yourself!

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  2. Anonymous says:
    January 15, 2011 at 1:18 am

    I agree, i had just separated from my cheating boy friend who i have a 7 month old son from. It is hard , very hard but the way i get through it is my supportive family who allows us to live with them , and the knowledge that i know it was never getting any better in my relationship. We all know that something is just right when something is just not right, but we shove the feeling in a box and hide it in the basement ! And tell ourselves “we should try harder” no , we need to listen to our in stinks and have good honest woman friends that we can collaborate with on a regular basis. I believe it is always easier to see a solution to other peoples problems rather than my own. So a good group of woman would be beneficial. I know your situation may be a bit different , but the same concept applies. Move on , although difficult it will benefit your self esteem certainly make you a stronger person. Your kids will know that you are strong and wanted the best for them by putting them in a better situation. Lastly i suggest you read “why men love Bitches ” by Sherry Argov. you can but it for about $4 on amozon.com , this will open your eyes to your situation.

    Good luck

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  3. Sarasota says:
    January 15, 2011 at 10:20 am

    And all kids deserve better than an alcoholic parent!

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