I wouldn’t wish twins on my worst enemy.
Posted by Anon in Family on May 11th, 2010 | 7 commentsI’m too tired to write all the specifics, but twins are not twice as hard, they are 5x as hard, at least. Anyone who has them understands. I hate it. All those with just one child or one at a time: please appreciate it. I never get a break, not on my best day. It’s fun and cute out in public when people see the double stroller and two kids dressed alike. The rest is pure torture. I feel guilty because I am so lucky to have these two gorgeous healthy children that I love and adore. But society has GOT to stop thinking of multiples as ‘cute’ and ‘double blessings’, etc. It is not fun. You are never able to give either child 100%. It’s dangerous — there are times when one kid is crawling across the room and the other is climbing up the some piece of furniture that you thought was childproofed. It is a constant state of pins-and-needles. Mine wake each other up and synching their naps has been a struggle since they were born so the “sleep when your baby sleeps” is absolutely impossible. The exhaustion is blinding. I have started to correct people when they say “I hope I have twins”. I try not to be Debbie Downer about it, but I won’t perpetuate the myth that twins are fun. I hope to save someone else the torture.
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I understand having two children is hard, but it’s not like just because they’re twins makes it that much harder on someone who has children a year apart. You telling people that they will not be happy having twins doesn’t make it not happen. It’s like choosing the gender of your baby. If you’re so stressed out don’t sit on the computer, why couldn’t you take a nap when you wrote that?
You obviously don’t understand the meaning of this site which is to vent without being judged. So thanks for ruining that for me. You need to educate yourself about twins compared to having two kids close in age. That is another thing that parents of twins are SO sick of hearing. It is MUCH harder to have multiples. Just google a few sites to read about parents who have a set of twins then two singletons close in age and you’ll see what they say since they can compare and I also have relatives with that scenario so I know. As far as taking a nap, some healthy venting is better than a 15 minute nap befor one kid starts screaming. Why are you on this site, I’m curious? If it’s to seek out comments and write a nasty reply, you have issues and I feel badly for your kids if they are the ones a year apart that you’re referring to.
What is your problem with her coming on here to vent a little. It is her confession that she does not like twins and as you said this site is where people come not to be judged and YOU are judging her now. The board is not here for just you so leave her and others like her that come here to vent alone. If the moderator doesn’t think the message or messages like it is appropriate he or she will not approve it to be posted. The comment is here so it must be alright. So please go and have a nice day!
I have 2 children, but they are 27 months apart, and I am having a very hard time.. I CANNOT imagine what you are going through.
I have to agree with the “Oh, I want twins!” comments. How idiotic. When I was TTC, I was on a few TTC message boards, and a few women would actually TRY to have multiples! They would take clomid without a prescription, in hopes in getting pregnant with twins!! (I hear it increases your chances of multiples)
I never, ever wanted twins, honestly I was petrified of getting the ultrasound and finding out I was carrying twins both times I was pregnant. I have no idea what it’s like, but I STILL have no idea why some would purposely try for them. Why would you want a riskier pregnancy amd delivery? Or the difficulties (as you say here) in raising them?
Anyway, just wanted to say I hope it gets better for you.
cant you get a break from someone? In laws? parents? siblings? just send one or both babies, take off and have some time alone, can’t their dad do more? hire some occasional help?
I am so sorry for all the people who think it must be great to have twins.
I have to confess that when we got our first ultrasound my husband and I high fived right in the doctors office because it WASN’T twins.
Having two young babies at the same time is very challenging, but it’s not the same as never having had just one.
Again, I truly am sorry that people don’t seem to understand how hard it is for you.
Just know that some mothers see you with your twins and feel nothing but sympathy, but we don’t say anything because
“You have my condolences” is just not as polite as “Oh, how cute! Twins!”
But we feel for you…
I totally get it! I have 2 year old twins and I’m STILL suffering from depression. Sometimes I really feel like I hate them.