I Hate My House and Everyone In it.
Posted by miserable:(( in Family on Jul 11th, 2010 | 11 commentsGetting a house with my boyfriend of 2 years seemed like such a great idea at the time. And everything was great, until his bum brother needed a place to stay. He takes my bf’s truck without asking. Eats all of our food, and our electric bill has nearly doubled. He doesn’t clean up any of his messes and his stupid girlfriend is here every weekend. I hate her, and I’m starting to hate him. My boyfriend won’t do anything about it. Won’t say anything and makes me feel bad when I want to. I’m tired of working my ass off just to be taken advantage of. When we finally confronted him about everything he didn’t say sorry of thank you. We asked him to find somewhere else to go and he hasn’t even looked. So he is still here and I am still miserable. All I want is my house back. I’m sick of them walking around like they own the place. I’m sick of all of them.
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Hi!
I understand you feelings… I use to live in an big apartment on the level of the street where everybody would stop at any time, mostly at super time and it would make me crazy that they (even if they were my good friends)would not respect the fact I have a life just because they didn’t have one… My man use to tell me that I was a little impolite because I would trow people out before super time. I didn’t think so and I would do it anyway (but he was happy when I would do it). Some people don’t have the guts to say something, but I don’t care if I am the bad one; It’s my place and people have to respect me. You don’t, oh well it’s your problem. I mean f…, we are working our butt to have a place were we can have tranquility for a few hours at night!
So I am now living in an other province (for work) and we bought a house. I can’t tell you how nice it feel to be so far away.
What I would say is you have to talk with your man and make him see that he is disrespectful toward you for not being with you on this. These people have even less respect for you otherwise they would f…… do something with there a… So as long as your man is not totally with you on this, they won’t do a thing!
If the house is on your name only, give them an ultimatum; 1 month to find a place to stay…
Good luck!!!
First of all, if you are primarily paying for that apartment, you’ve got every right to throw them OUT. Otherwise I think you need to put the fire under your boyfriend.
The bottom line is that you are miserable with this situation. And your feelings sure as hell aren’t unreasonable. Your boyfriend (potential husband?) has a job to protect you from being miserable. Or at least do the best that he can to keep you from being miserable. He’s not doing his job. He’s not standing up for you. He’s putting his brother ahead of you. That’s not right.
i know how u feel i am moving and my parents got this house i hate it but i have no choice but to move they dont understand its smaller and gross! the bedrooms are horrible
if I were you, I’d just move out.
Tell your bofriend you have had it!! Leave and go stay in one of those weekly hotels or with family until he comes to his senses and kicks them out. Better yet call the police…I think if one of you wants them out they have to leave..well I think anyways not sure. DO NOT take their crap!! Life is too short!!
I say leave the house to all of them and go off on your own…find a new place and a new man….probably should hold off on moving in with the next guy though….
I really have a great boyfriend. I really do. But his family just knows they can take advantage of him. I just can’t be the one to tell his brother to leave. Its like us taking in my sister and I made him tell her instead of me. Its his family not mine. I’m not the reason that his brother is here, he is. My bf and I are great together, but I HATE his family.
If your boyfriend is so great, why don’t he do something about it? You must tell him how you feel about this and insist on the fact that it makes you miserable. At some point, you will start to resent him as well and it will be worst… Do you want to break-up over a thing like that? Tell him that either they get out of there or you will have to do so.
Don’t move out. Throw THEM out. Don’t let them push you out of your own home…
For now, set an ultimatum. Whatever you are comfortable with.
This could be a good learning experience, though. Maybe now you can set some ground rules with your bf (concerning house guests and the like)…. if anyone stays with you for longer than X amount of weeks/months, they need to pay rent, split the cost of utilities.
It is not unreasonable to ask that he pay for his place to stay and not eat your food.
Set some rules and stick to them, though. Communicate your needs clearly and follow through with your requests.
What a weak woman you are, stand up to your boyfriend and say something, if you mean anything to him he will do the right thing and kick his brother out, or are you that insecure he might not