I am still not sure I really love my kids…….
Posted by Anonymous in Family on Sep 17th, 2010 | 3 commentsI never wanted kids…and then I had one followed by a second. I am sure I do love them, but they are only 3 and 4 and my life just isn’t mine anymore and I hate them for it. Its not their fault so I take care of them but sometimes I just wished they had never happened. This is horrible because their are people out there who would give everything just to have a child and sometimes I feel like I would give everything not to have them. I just miss being me and being able to just be with my husband and go out and have fun without the constant stress of raising two kids.
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I know how you feel. But my kids are now 5 & 7… And it’s a lot more fun. The 7 year old HELPS with the 5 year old (even making snacks!), and they listen better. Seriously. I was in the same boat you are and it gets better sooner than you think. 3 & 4 is rough.
Honestly, get a subscription to parenting or another rag – the monthly advice and reminders will keep you sane until it starts to get easier. And it does.
You also need to hire a babysitter and get away from them twice a month for a date with your spouse – that was half the problem for me and my wife. Dealing with two kids all day is exhausting.
I agree with Specialneeds on all counts.
It wont be long before they a much more independent. They will learn to ride bikes, meet friends at school, find interests that they can pursue with some help from you. You are about to watch them turn into little people with their own thoughts and ideas. It’s a marvelous time and I hope you can find the time to enjoy it because the time goes so fast.
Make sure you and your husband work on getting away if you can. Otherwise, set up a date night. I know it sounds dumb, but its not at all. -The reality is that you sometimes have to plan “things”. That doesn’t have to mean a babysitter and a night out if that’s not possible right now. It can be as simple as setting a date and getting the kids in bed so you can watch a movie.
Google “I hate being a mom” and the first site that appears will say, “Hate being a mom/secret confessions” which is this site. A woman admitted she loves her kids but hates being a mom and she received over 400 responses from mothers who were in the same boat. Reading through it may help you feel less alone with the feelings you’re experiencing. Being a mother can be absolutely thankless and rarely is it an appreciated job, especially when the kids are young. Moms are simply “supposed” to love it and it’s not PC to admit it really sucks sometimes that you’ve sacrificed your whole life for your kids. Hang it there, while you’re a mom for life, thankfully the kids will grow up and learn to take care of themselves.