Another reason to hate my dad and myself
Posted by Anonymous in Family on Sep 23rd, 2009 | 9 commentsWell today mu dad raped my mother. I was downstairs when that happend. I was so shocked ( still am ), I didn`t know what to do. I was to freaked out to go upstairs. I dont know if it was my place to intervene or not. I was studying downstairs so when I heard my mom pleading my dad to stop because it hurt I just stood near the stairs. I dont know if should have gone up or not. What could have I done ? Instead I just put the tv on so I woudnt hear a thing. And when mom came downstairs I made it look as if I didnt know what had just happend, that I had been studying all this time. My mom had cryed, I could see in her eyes. When my 2-year old brother woke up and my mom brought him downstairs she told him that dad had hurt her. I feel soo damn gulty. I know I should have done at least something. I hate my dad. This isent the first time he as abused my mom. He just-to hit her and then I always comfort my mom. I dont live in America, I live in Eastern-Europe. Things like that are normal here, so yeah I dont know what to do…
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Don’t hate yourself, you did what you thought was best at the time. Perhaps if you would have intervened he would have hurt you too. Maybe talking to your mom will help you both cope with this. ((hugs))
I’m so sorry :( I don’t know what you could’ve done differently, I don’t think there is anything. {{{HUGS}}}
I’m so sorry for you and your family, It is so rought trying to cope with life, then having an abuser. You all are going to join forces and confront him. why is he raping her? That needs adressed. How about the police? or his family? If nothing works , then together leave. Personily, I would take a baseball bat to his testicles when he is asleep or coming out of the bath. that should let him know that [no more] is allowed
GODDDDDDDDD….
that is so sad.. damn it
i have been raped twice and it hurts like hell..
m sorry.. its not ur fault.. m sorry
Sometimes there are some situations you can’t change. If you had tried to stop your father, he would have turned his anger and violence onto you…..are you really ready to deal with that consequence? Your mother knows your father and what he is capable of, and most likely she is doing her best to protect you. You have a less than ideal situation….I come from a coutnry also where treatment of women is the same….police do nothing, and the woman is not always lucky enough to have family or brothers to protect her. If you want to fight back, prepare yourself for a fight. Make yourself stronger and smarter than your father….it’s all you can do. If you can talk to your mother, then do so, and see if there is anything you can do to help her.
This will sound like a really random solution, but it might be worth trying to get hold of a herb called chaste berry and try to slip it into your dad’s food/drinks. It’s perfectly harmless, but when males take it, over time it reduces their sex drive. You can get it in tablets, as tea or as a tincture. Most health food shops should have it.
Monks used to take it to curb sexual desire.
I personally would have walked into that room and tried anything possible to help my mother even if it got me in trouble or he would have hurt me. Though i do understand why you didn’t but you shouldn’t ignore it. At least talk to your mum and ask if there’s anything you can do or maybe she just needs someone to talk to.
GO TO THE POLICE!!
hello is there anyone you could tell about this, like the police or someone at school? This shouldn’t be allowed to happen. Talk to your mum privatley and tell her that you can get help for her if she will tell people what he has done to her. I wish you all the best and i hope there is a cessation to your suffering