And I’m not the only one…
Posted by Anonymous Stepmom in Family on Feb 26th, 2010 | 3 commentsI don’t believe my stepson is my husband’s biological child.
They look nothing alike. And there is a family “joke” going around that my stepson was really fathered by my husband’s 2nd cousin – as they favor each other so much. (This joke is not very funny, especially when you take into account all the flirting that goes on between the ex-wife and the cousin, even though they are both married to other people.)
Even as a baby, my stepson has never even had a glimmer of resemblance to my husband. But did he look like the cousin? SPITTING IMAGE.
My husband’s ex wife is not totally stable, and I would not put it past her to have cheated.
I feel like a terrible person because I love my stepson with all my heart. I love my husband with all my heart. But the snide remarks are too much. I want to know for sure.
But then…what would I do if I found out that he isn’t my husband’s child?
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It really, really, does not who biologically created this boy. He has a father — your husband. DO NOT distroy the family because of a little DNA….he’s already gone through one divorce, do not make his life worse. NO good would come of satisfying your curiosity. Leave it alone.
I agree with SoWhat!
The jokes might be funny to the rest of the family but maybe they’re too close to home for you.
Maybe have a discreet word with whoever makes these comments or sets off the discussion. Tell them they make your stepson uncomfortable.
As for your husband does he have these doubts too? If your husband wants to know then that’s up to him. But it’s really none of his business.
I’ve sometimes wondered if my stepson is really my husband’s son. They do look exactly alike so it’s really not an issue in terms of appearance but still I think it’s natural to wonder.
And remember that genetic variations in families can cause people to look more like other members of the family than their parents. The genes that made that 2nd cousin look the way he looks could very easily be carried by your husband and passed to his son.
Either way as much as you want to know it can’t come to any good.
As SoWhat! says your husband is his son’s father whoever offered his DNA and you don’t want to ruin their relationship or the family you have because of a suspicion that really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Love your husband. Love your step son. Let your husband decide in this matter. It is not your place and the comments you speak of are not within your control. All you do control is your love, devotion and dedication to your husband and ‘your’ child. Best wishes for you all.