unhappy
Posted by lil lezzie in Confused on Dec 30th, 2008 | 4 commentsI have been attracted to women for as long as I can remember. Even when I was a child, I remember having ‘crushes’ (although back then I didn’t realize what they were) on different women. I’ve never really been attracted to men.
I came out when I was 18, and I would have done so earlier but my family is Southern Baptist, and would have disowned me. Well, they did so anyways. This year they have been more into pulling me back into the family and me being a part of them.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years, and 6 months ago I cheated on her with a guy. She knew about it the day of, and I was completely honest with her about it. I didn’t want a relationship with the guy, nor the sex, I suppose I was curious since I had never been with a guy. I regret the whole thing totally, and I wish I could take it back.
We agreed to work things out, and things have been better between us. Except the intimacy. She has moved past the incident I mentioned before, and still there is little intimate affection. Sure we cuddle when we go to bed, but not much other than that. And I like to have sex a lot…but it’s like she can go weeks or months without it. I want to be with her but maybe it’s that I don’t feel attractive anymore…I have gained a little bit of weight and I don’t do my hair or makeup anymore. But other people want me……..so I don’t understand.
What do I do???
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Welcome to what married life is like for a man after the first year or two.
Ask her about it. Maybe make yourself attractive (makeup or whatever you used to do) again…not for her…but for others…maybe once she sees how wanted you are, she’ll be reminded of the good she’s got! Weeks though? Months??? How do you survive??
Well the thing is, you cheated. She obviously hasn’t moved on. She’s probably not so into the fact that you cheated on her with a dude and what not. I’m not into girls that are bi because they actively sleep with men. It’s disgusting.
It’s your fault. You shouldn’t have cheated in the first place.
Its not the weight lady, its that once you’ve broken the trust…that’s it. Your relationship is never gonna be the same again. You should just break it off. The reason she doesn’t want to sleep with you is that you gave yourself to sumone else…of the opposite sex. So now she’s doubtful if you’re even gay, step in her shoes for a moment. If i was gay, i wouldn’t be that intimate with you either, i’d dump you right then and there. You should’ve experimented before you got into a serious relationship with sumone. Now you have to face the consequences of your actions…and they might not be fixed.