Too Ticklish

I am a female, single, 26, and work in a professional business office. I am an insanely ticklish peron over every inch of my body. I find when I date men, really nice men, when they find out I’m ticklsh(doesn’t take much), they want to make me their “tickle toy.” They always want to see how ticklish I am and tickle me out of my mind.I am good natured and easy going so I don’t get mad, I just laugh my head off. I laugh so much I can’t beg them to stop. Feathers tickle me terribly, and once they discover that, they want to test every inch of me. It drives me insane. One guy I dated tickled me all night long with a feather, I was going nuts! My relationships all start out great but as soon as they can get me giggling or sqirming it just escalates from there. I guess its my fault for not being firm enough, but its hard to be firm when you’re rolling around howling like a banshee. I just don’t understand why guys are like that, they always try to tickle me to death.

21 Responses to “ “Too Ticklish”

  1. Britany says:

    Tell them to stop. Let them know that after a certain point it makes you angry. Stand up for yourself, it’s freakin tickling. . .

  2. reader says:

    haha that made me laugh

  3. Lina says:

    Im the same way. People think its hilarious, i squeek more then laugh lol:)
    If i like the person its ok

  4. Tracy says:

    I can definitely relate to your problem, especially the part about being tickled with a feather. I am a 29-year-old woman who has experienced the same problem with men I have dated who quickly learn how insanely ticklish I am. One way of dealing with this that has worked for me is to make it clear when things start getting physical that if the guy tickles the bottoms of my feet he will not be having sex with me – ever!

    • John Mo says:

      Why won’t you let a guy tickle your feet? I would be very gentle and try not to make you mad. Tickling is very sensual and I would be very careful.

  5. Matthew says:

    I’m 32 male. I’m sorry but the fact that you are soo ticklish is adorable. Us men do love to tickle women but it’s not intended to be mean, as far as I’m concerned anyway. I don’t know why I love to do it other than the giggling and squirming is too cute and total turn-on. I have to ask, how did he manage to tickle you ALL night with a feather? Why didn’t you run away? lol

  6. Barney says:

    Men tickle women because it’s cute to watch them squirm lol. And it’s probably a power thing, you know how men are. How did he tickle you all night long? couldn’t you run away or kick him or something? lol

  7. William says:

    Britany,

    This is a tricky (OK, ticklish) area and please understand that a man does not mean to be cruel when he tickles you. I can attest that many women love being tickled silly, as I do, by a woman, in fact, and just laughing and begging with a ticklish smile feels like you are playing the game. You need to tell them that you simply do not like it. Be serious. If they do it again, drop them. I find it no fun at all to tickle a woman who does not enjoy it. There are man who do.

  8. Wade says:

    Well, I’m a guy, I’m insanely ticklish, and I can attest that as soon as women find out that a guy is ticklish they’re every bit as merciless, if not more so; I don’t know how many times I’ve been driven to shrieking for mercy, which is pretty embarrassing. I guess I can see why it’s entertaining for them, so I’ve kind of accepted it as a fact of life, at least until someone tickles me into unconsciousness.

    Never had anyone pull out a feather, though. Who has feathers lying around??

  9. TK says:

    It’s hard to be firm when you’re laughing….I guess I would say you should rehearse a ‘strongly voiced assertion to any man before you reach a ticklish fever and tell him- to stop..
    No more! Make him respect you and your body… it’s not funny when you disrespect- hurt someones feelings or seek your own needs before that of your girlfiends.
    TK

  10. madalyn says:

    guys just tickle you because of three reasons. 1.its so freakin’ easy!:) 2.they think it will get them on a more intamint level with you. 3.they probly think its cute that its so easy to make you laugh.

  11. Kitt says:

    Why not learn to enjoy it? I’m a huge fan of tickling in general, both giving and receiving, but I have a general rule – if the person being tickled isn’t having fun, something is wrong.

    Next time you find someone you like, tell them upfront you’re extremely ticklish. Let them know it’s ok for them to tickle you, but they MUST stop after x time or if you have trouble breathing, etc. Set limits and make sure you’re comfortable. Being tickled can be very fun and enjoyable, plus tickling someone and making them laugh is fun as well. Who knows – with the right person, you may find you love it :)

  12. KYM says:

    I’ve been tickled on occasion.It can be quite enjoyable.Limit setting will determine the fun or possible agony that could occur.

  13. Joe says:

    I could marry you, or at least have one heck of a honeymoon!

  14. Duck says:

    It seems like most who replied to this post haven’t answered your original question: why guys are like that. I think the answer is physical attraction (the guys think you are sexy and want to touch your body) mixed with domination (able to make you lose control) and fetishism (tickling fetish is very common.)

    I personally have a tickling fetish and, although I can’t explain why, I can attest that tickling someone like you would be a huge turn-on. In my experience most women don’t mind it too much, or if they do mind they don’t complain. So there is that social conditioning aspect as well – tickling is harmless child’s play.

    What you might keep in mind when a guy tickles you is this: at that moment you have the man completely in your control. You might think you are out of control – laughing and whatnot, but the truth is the man is totally mesmerized by your beauty and sexiness. Embrace it if you can.

  15. Bree says:

    i know what you mean im ticklish from head to toe and boys at school are starting to find out so they sneak up behind me and tickle me because they think its funny… i asked a boy why once and he said he just thinks its so damn hilarious lol XD

  16. Anonymous says:

    Its probably cuz its so cute when women laugh

  17. Dating girl with same problem says:

    If he won’t respect your wishes not to be tickled then he doesn’t respect you at all. Find a man who will treat you with respect. However if you are doing something to encourage the tickling then the fault may be yours. My girl friend is extremely ticklish; I don’t even have to touch her. I don’t tickle her until she starts getting mean. She will try to twist my nipples off and think it is funny as hell. My only recourse to get her to stop is to tickle her.

    Anyway, if you are not encouraging the tickling then find a man who will respect your wishes not to be tickled.

  18. Pete says:

    I’m a male with the same problem and had to tell several girls to stop tickling me as it very annoying to me and a major turn off.

    Unfortunately most mof them didn’t care and I simply left them as it was just not enjoyable for me at all.

  19. faith says:

    Well I have the same problem but I look for guys with a ticklish fetish