Selfish
Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Feb 25th, 2010 | 5 commentsI love my husband, but I love another man as well. I want them both. Maybe I don’t know how to be happy. I feel guilty for hurting this man I care so much for, and I feel like I’m betraying my husband for having such strong feelings for someone else. Why am I doing this to all of us?
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I am in a similar situation. The other man i love is also married and we know that our relationship has no future and its killing me. How do i get myself to love my husband.
Well your sure in a pickle!! Lets start with something easy. Do you know both Men love you? If you are married and met someone else, it might be because you are not having a exciting marriage. Is that it? Do you think your marriage is too dull? You should tell the other Man that you are married and that you are very sorry for not telling him, but you commited to that marriage and need to stay in it. Now you and your husband need to do more things together. Consider taking a trip somewhere warm together, or maybe just do simple things. Go ice skating, a horse and carriage ride, or get a sitter ( if you have kids) and go out for a romantic dinner. Your relationship needs to be rescued, and this is the best way to do it. After all, you married this Man in the first place, and try to rememeber what made you fall in love and get married. Hope this helps :)
i am also in a very similar situation… just letting you know.. this happens all the time.. and we all need some support every now and then! im here… for as much as that counts!
This is a dumb question. You are doing it because you want more than what the husband is giving you. The real question is whether your are doing this just for the sex or for the emotional commitment.
I understand how you feel. I went through the same kind of thing 2 year ago. I loved my husband, but then I met HIM. He made my world just seem to light up. We tried to deny what we felt for each other and I tried like hell to find what my husband I had once had. But I couldn’t stop wanting HIM! In the end I couldn’t NOT be with HIM and I couldn’t go on lying to my husband. I told my husband I was no longer in love with him. And we got divorced. We are still very good friends and I;m still madly insanely in love with HIM. You have to do whats right for YOU in the end. Do what you think will make YOU happy.