Im not ready to marry and settle down..
Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Jun 28th, 2010 | 5 commentsWe are getting married in five months, buying a home shortly and all I want to do is run. Im so scared it wont work out because all the relationships around us have failed. I dont want to loose him but sometimes I want to stop being so mature in life and act like the irresponsible drinking 20 some year old that my friends are all doing. I also cant stop sexting my ex and thinking how he was better in bed and missing it…
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IMO 20 is way too young. and sexting with your ex?… way I’d slow down if I were you and give it ten more years.. why put all this undue stress on yourself? your 20′s are supposed to be a time to find yourself and enjoy life.. it’s not going to get any easier, you know only harder.. when you get pregnant, buy diapers and formula, have to pay income tax, property tax, insurance… believe me, it’s not all that exciting. take it from someone who knows
What total bull shit. This is classic ‘Grass is always Greener’ syndrome. You’re not scared it won’t work out cos of friends breaking up – you’re looking for excuses to run.
So run.
You’ll be doing your fella a HUGE favour in the long run, he can find someone who deserves him. And you? You can go out and get pissed, vomit all over your mum and dad’s carpet, sleep with as many blokes as you possibly can and spend all your time pretending that your living the dream. I assure you, your friends doing this now, are doing it in the hope they will meet ‘their happily ever after’ and once it arrives, they won’t look back in regret.
What you can believe for certain, is that this bloke isn’t right for you. That doesn’t make you a bad person, however, going through with the house/marriage etc when you’re so unhappy is wrong. Eventually it will come out (Sexting won’t stay at that faze forever), and telling your beau “I was scared” just won’t cut it.
Go, pull your head from the sand, enjoy yourself. Have fun. And when the right man comes along….you’ll know.
my mom always tells me that never get married if u have even .05% of doubt, if you think you are not ready yet and scared like hell then dont marry and explain why you can’t continue the plan (your fiance has the right to know) about hacing sex with your ex, its better that you also give respect to your current partner and break up with him instead of putting poop on his head… you dont deserve him and he doesnt deserve you more.. be fair.. if you want to run away from the wedding, go bail and wish yourself goodluck for your future serious relationship.
damn if you dont want to get married then just dont. nobodys forcing you and you know its a bad idea so quit crying about it and quit wasting your boy’s time.
It’s far too soon. You aren’t ready. Of course you need to have more fun because you are YOUNG. Enjoy being young. Get out of this whole arrangement. It’s crazy to allow other people’s wishes to coerce you into making such a huge mistake. Have courage – walk away.