I’m in love with a man nearly twice my age
Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Jan 11th, 2010 | 29 commentsI’ve known him for 5 maybe 6 years. What started out as a friendship has grown in something completely unexpected. But the fact that we are about 24 years apart is disturbing to most people. It’s ok with me because when I am with him the age just doesn’t seem to be an issue. We have so much fun and are perfect for each other. The age difference keeps me from telling about him to other people because I don’t want to deal with the reaction they will have. My closest friends know about him and have accepted it without question but I can’t make new friends without keeping this a secret. He’s my parents’ age but he looks a lot younger so when they see him they don’t think about it too much. But if they don’t know him and ask me questions, I always feel like I have to lie about everything. Over time I have gotten comfortable about it but I am still not as comfortable as he is. He has kids that know and like me. I have had a lot of getting used to but I am still embarrassed that people are telling me I can “do better”. I wonder if I am attractive enough for a guy my age? But even if I could, I don’t want to be with anyone else but him. I am just so confused.
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I’m married with a man who is 18 years older then I am. We’re blessed with a beautiful daughter. Even after 7 years relationship, we still love each other incredibly much and are happier with each other then we’ve ever been with other people of our own age.
Whatever other people tell you, whatever they will think, whatever the gossip is… Sometimes a big difference of age is just the perfect match between two people.
Don’t listen to anything but your heart.
I don’t think it matters at all! True friends will not be interested in his age – only interested that he treats u good. Do what you want! Why shud you lead ur life to please others’ no way I certainly wouldn’t! Im 45 now and when I was 19 I dated a guy for 2yr he was age 38. I havn’t ever regretted it. My mum n dad where fine with it as long as I was happy. You lead ur own life, don’t let others’ influence ur directions in life or you could regret it. Take gud advice – LOOK AFTER NUMBER ONE- URSELF! Life is not a stage show u don’t get another re-take! Stick with him, be happy!!
I’m crazy in love with someone twice my age. I don’t care about age differerence. it’s great being with him and I love every monment and i wouldn’t trade it for nothing. It’s ok
I am dating guy who is 19 years older, I am 23 and he is 42. I have never felt this great in a relationship, its the best thing.
If you love this man and he makes you happy then that should say it all!
im in love with a guy whos 36 and im 18. he treats me with respect and is always there for me, thing is parents and some family dont accept, also he use to teach at my school when it was juniors, but i dont remember most of it. he also has children and a broken down marriage. i find it hard to trust people and have has bad experiences of blokes in the past which is why i dont rush into anything, but hes different, i know u may think its just a crush and ull get over him, but because of my experiences which ive learnt from i know he’s so right for me and i trust him 100%. i guess ill have to put myself before others
I’m in love with a married man who is twice my age. It is the best sex, and best converstation, I have ever had. I think about him all the time. I have had many relationships before with guys my own age, and not one of them has ever grabbed a hold of my heart like this. I will never push him to get a divorce though.. until hes ready.
I’m going through the exact same thing. I’ve fallen in love with a married older man and he’s so wonderful and sweet and amazing. He keeps talking about our future and I’m curious to find out how your situation is going? Is there really a chance this could work? Weve been together in this way for 2 months and have known each other for years and it feels so right.
On the other side of the card, I’m 27 yrs older than my lady. She is the most special thing in my life. Our conversations are at the deepest and truest level I have ever had. When the ages are very young, maturity interferes, but as adults age does not matter. What matters is unconditional commitment to each other. I love my lady, she is my woman, and she will be the mother of my child. She is as content as she has ever been, and committed to her man.
P.S., her parents who are my age, dissaprove. But not her sisters.
i am in love with a man who is 30 years older than me.
he is older than my dad.
but he makes me happy. the only thing is he thinks he is too old for me and worried about what other people would think.
but when we’re together we have so much fun. it’s relaxing and i feel so comfortable with him.
don’t know what to do.
I just met an incredible man who is fifteen years older than me. I must admit, I was not expecting anything other than friendship but we seem to be extremely attracted to each other. I’m really enjoying this dreamy stage I’m in. lol.
I am in the exact same position as you. it all seems so strange when im away from him, but when we are together it seems so right. is this wrong?
can i trust him when he says he likes me or is he just excited by the idea of a younger girl
im 18 and hes at least 19 years older than me. same interest, care for eachother..
buit i dont know..please help. x
I guess I join this club. I fell in love with a man awhile ago. I chose career over im bc i was too young and innocent to chose a man over me. He’s married now with kids…but i will always hold a special place in my heart. I still think about him sometimes and hope someday some man can make just as happy as he did…when we were friends and all it started with was an infatuation. Men get sexier as they age, esp the grey hair! Es muy sexy!
Enjoy it now, if this is where your heart lies, but keep in mind when you’re 40 and he’s nearing 75 you’ll start to resent not being with someone as youthful as you. Age catches up to us all.
Were you molested in your past? Latching on to older men is often a manifestation of incest/abuse.. Been there, done that
i think that people fall in love and the inmaturity of a young person they dont know what they are doing in the bedroom.age doesnt matter when you are in love.i have very supportive familiy which agrees and is happy with my patner who 36 years older than me just cause you have done it and didnt work out doesnt mean that its wrong every body make choice and we live with them it our life to decide what right for each person and not every body have to be molested to be with older man.
I am in love with a man 26 years older than me, he’s 1 year older than my dad. We started out friends but the chemistry between us was unreal and a relationship developed. In the beginning it was so fun and he was so kind and sweet, but as time has gone by, he’s become scared of getting hurt cause he thinks I’m going to leave him for someone my own age and he’ll be left hurt again. I’m so in love with him but while we’re having time apart so he can sort his head out, I’m so scared he’s not going to realise how much I care and just end it to protect himself. He says he loves me but can’t hurt me anymore. I don’t know what to do!
If you love him fight for him show him that you love him by being there and supporting him in his life what he does. they feel insecure show him love take care
In the exact same boat as you, mine is 16 yrs older and I’ve never loved someone with such intensity! And I know were meant to be together but he’s so scared that I’ll hurt him down the road and that’s the last thing I would ever do. I wish you the best, and myself too (: its all in God’s hands from here…
i am with older man he is 57years old we have being together 4 year i really love him he is the best at everything.we are starting a familiy he is best.
I am in love with a man 19 years older than me. He’s incredible. It seems like after my past relationship with my ex bf of the same age as me, it feels so great to have these conversations where we have amazing chemistry, and that person is my current bf. Age nvr seemed to get in the way so far in our relationship, and i am also worried about what ppl might think and like you i have only revealed it to my closest friends. I don’t know where this will take me but i feel extremely happy being with him right now. :)
Whatever happens, happens, but i won’t regret it.
I’m totally in love with a man that’s 23 years older than me. He is also crazy about me. We were best friends for 6 years before we tried to be more than that. That relationship didn’t work out then. Now after 8 years of still being best friends we’re giving it another shot. I’ve found that the most satisfying relationship always happens with someone you truly know and love. We have taken time to get to know each other and were already so close that age was never a factor. I’m happier than ever. I say to everyone else out there that age really is just a number and go with your heart.
@Anonymous We’re in the same boat, I’m in love with a maguy more than twice my age, I love him unfeignedly, He’s always on my mind, He got me doin all the things i’ll never do, indeed He knocks me off my feet..My love for him is unconditional,.. We had the best times when we were together..Something So Wrong but Feels So Right….. .
I’m in love with a man who’s 65 years old. I’m 16. :)
I’m in a similar boat to you ladies. I am 23, he is 39. I was at a restaurant with my friend one night when this waiter ran our food. He was so handsome and well-spoken that I was instantly smitten. I invited him out dancing with us, and guessed his age to be late 20′s/early 30′s. We connected so well, and things snowballed from there. It’s only going on 3 months, but I feel I’ve known him my whole life. I’m just getting ready to meet his daughters (3 and 6), and have never felt so at ease with someone. I’ve never trusted someone with my heart until I met my real sweetheart.
My family remains in quiet disapproval. Many of my friends think it’s a strange situation. But so long as I, as well as you ladies, are looking out for our own happiness rather than the approval of others, things will pan out.
Cheers.
Same case here. I’m 20 and I’m now with a man 25 years older than me.
I met him last year, obviously, I was 19 and he was 44. More than twice my age.
He respects me and never treats me like a kid. We have so many interesting conversations and experience.
We do love each other and I’m sure this will go on.
So, despite the age difference, even nationality difference, we’re still together, in love.
Still, I’ve gone through the same things
“My closest friends know about him and have accepted it without question but I can’t make new friends without keeping this a secret. He’s my parents’ age but he looks a lot younger so when they see him they don’t think about it too much. But if they don’t know him and ask me questions, I always feel like I have to lie about everything. Over time I have gotten comfortable about it but I am still not as comfortable as he is.”
And what we have to care is the true friends, and the most important, our own feelings.
So if you think that is the one, the right man. Then just enjoy it.
btw, I’m always having a hard time dating a boy at my age I don’t know why, I just felt like chatting with a kid, not a man.
I am in love with a man who is 19 years older than me. We have been together for 3 years now. He is married and has a young daughter (we were together before she was even born), but he has not been happy in his marriage for years and has been wanting to leave her, and is pretty much only still in it for his daughter. We are completely in love, and I have never been happier. We are in a long distance relationship right now because I am in school, but we talk constantly. Only one of our friends knows (a mutual friend) but he hasn’t talked to me in a while, so basically I am keeping this a secret to protect my man and myself. I really want to tell my friends who are starting to question if I really have a boyfriend. I don’t know what to do.
me too love with a guy – 19 years elder to me ..i am 33 and he is 52
I am really in love with him and words cannot ever explain how much he means to me ……………………
may be we will never be accepted by any one but deep inside our hearts we are missing one another so much!!!!
He taught me that its not the numbers that tell the age but its our heart that tells how young and old we are …Now i know he is very true since the special love that we share makes us very young some times i feel my self as a teenager crazzy over her first love!!!
“I love u very much !!!!!
My man is 23 yrs older I’m 27 he’s 50 ,we love each other he is my everything trust me he’s got a heart of gold wouldn’t give him up for anything