I never told him I had an abortion
Posted by Liv in Confused on Mar 11th, 2010 | 7 commentswhen I was 27 I got pregnant with him. I really didn’t want to keep it. It didn’t work out with my job at all and I’d make a really, really horrible mother. I know that all sounds really cold and heartless, but that’s how it is. I was afraid to tell him, because I feared he’d try to talk me out of it. I had the abortion when he was on a businesstrip, when he came back I managed to pretend nothing had happened. I felt so horrible. Not that I regretted the abortion, but I really missed having someone to talk to. I made a mistake by not telling him, but by the time I’d figured that out it seemed too late to change that.
Eventually things got better and now (2 yrs later) we’re about to get married. One part of me says I should tell him to be able to start our marriage without lies and secrets, but the other part says it would only cause more pain if I told him. He might hate me for it. I really don’t know what to do.
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Whats done is done. Never tell him and forget forever that it happened. And don’t ever do it again.
Tell him, but slur your words so it comes out more like “I had an aberration”. That way you will feel better, and he will just think that you had a litte too much to drink.
Wait till you have your last argument prior to divorcing. It will be ther last word on your behalf.
tell him
Your building a marriage built on lies and deceit.
No reason to tell him. Why? There isn’t one. It’s already done. No need to argue over something like this. It was your body, your decision, your right to do it. Forget about it and move on.
NEVER, ever, tell anything historical to ANYONE! There is enough current events to worry us!
Dumping YOUR guilt on others is destructive!
We are, ALL of us, imperfect! BUT, each time someone tells a tale of their “big mistake”, it
hurts the ones who love them.
Learn to suck it up, forgive yourself, and do your best to live up to your ideals, while loving others the best you can!
Telling on yourself, and on others, about past deeds, only hurts your own reputation! Then, you regret two things, instead of one!
NEVER, EVER, dredge up old faults or failures! Love yourself, so that you can love others.