when I was 27 I got pregnant with him. I really didn’t want to keep it. It didn’t work out with my job at all and I’d make a really, really horrible mother. I know that all sounds really cold and heartless, but that’s how it is. I was afraid to tell him, because I feared he’d try to talk me out of it. I had the abortion when he was on a businesstrip, when he came back I managed to pretend nothing had happened. I felt so horrible. Not that I regretted the abortion, but I really missed having someone to talk to. I made a mistake by not telling him, but by the time I’d figured that out it seemed too late to change that.
Eventually things got better and now (2 yrs later) we’re about to get married. One part of me says I should tell him to be able to start our marriage without lies and secrets, but the other part says it would only cause more pain if I told him. He might hate me for it. I really don’t know what to do.
Whats done is done. Never tell him and forget forever that it happened. And don’t ever do it again.
Tell him, but slur your words so it comes out more like “I had an aberration”. That way you will feel better, and he will just think that you had a litte too much to drink.
Wait till you have your last argument prior to divorcing. It will be ther last word on your behalf.
tell him
Your building a marriage built on lies and deceit.