RSSgay love in highschool
Firstly I am 16 and go to a all boy’s school, and I’m gay, I am telling this story because I’m sick of leading a secret life. It all started at age 14 were I realised that I wasn’t attracted to girls but was to guys, I am in the football group at school, were being gay is unacceptable and gays are taunted by the group. The group obviously doesn’t know that I’m gay and if they ever found out there is no doubt my life would be in danger. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel I have a caring boyfriend that will always be there for me and loves me for me. We first meet in the classes that we share, at first we didn’t speak much until we meet at a party that a person from school held, I’m to afraid to drink because I don’t want to say things that I will regret, he also doesn’t drink that’s how we both met. We had a long night of just talking and getting to know each other, and ever since that night we both have been in love. After the party he came back to my place, one thing lead to another and we both knew that our sexuality is true. I want to come out, I know that my boyfriend will always be there for me if anything happens, I just don’t want to live in the darkness anymore I want to be accepted. I would love any advice of what I should do.
Chris on March 31st 2008 in Confused
somebody said on 02 Apr 2008 at 5:03 pm # Quote
I’ve already told this to a person with a similar problem - Do whatever you want to do. Don’t be ashamed of what you are. This is your life and you have to live it in your own style. It is not neccessary to show it all around of course, but this doesn’t meen a secret life. This is your personal life, and even if you had a girlfriend you wouldn’t show her to the entire football team for example. It’s the same with the boyfriend. If you have chosen to be gay you have to be prepared to defend your position in society. There will always be people against this, but this doesn’t meen that gays will disappear. Try talking with your parents first. They have the right to know cause you’re under 18.
Keith said on 03 Apr 2008 at 9:17 pm # Quote
I say go for it! dont let what other people say get to you, im here im ***** get used to it lol
PUSSY LOVER said on 07 Apr 2008 at 1:44 am # Quote
first of all you said ur bf loves you very much BUT YET you both are still in hiding with ur lives now you say you want TO COME OUT THE CLOSET thats nice and dandy for you but how sure are you of ur bf that when you come out ur closet hell be there like you said i mean lets be real here you said thhe school is all boys and most importantly GAYS are taunted terribly and ur life would be in danger so hey im not saying ur bf isnt what you say he is but ppl react differently when their comfort zone has changed im bi but ya i dont go @ announcing that to ppl not everyone you think you know well reacts well to info like that some dont care doesnt bother them for other they will use it against you so before you decide to jump ur gun and stir up calm water in other ppls lives find out if that person is also ready to be outed with you. what may be good for you isnt always good for someone else ok so think abt that and let time be ur helper time answers questions. time helps you see things better.
Anonymous said on 10 Apr 2008 at 6:19 pm # Quote
Here’s some advice:
Allow your parents and your closest friends to know that you are gay. Ask them to keep this knowledge to themselves as (unfortunately) our society still doesn’t tolerate that lifestyle on the whole. This way, you are out of the closet to those who matter to you. I cannot blame you for not wanting to come out, as you’ve said it could be a very real threat to your life.
Its nobody’s business what you decide to do in the privacy of your own bedroom. Your body is your own, and you have the right to share it with whomever you choose. I would advise not to broadcast your bedroom activities to the wider public just yet though. Wait until you are out of school (children can be nasty creatures to one another, as can adults), and then be as flaming as you like in public. Being a teenager is hard enough without people giving you a rough time about what you choose to do with your body.
Good luck!
Anaj said on 13 Apr 2008 at 1:03 am # Quote
Aw. That is realy bad situation. I think that the first thing you have to do is to choose between your perfect life and between truth. You know, if you will choose the truth, you will lose the life you have now. But if you are ready to hear from your schoolmates how gay you are and how they hate gays, go for it and say to world who you really are. But if you are not ready and you don’t want to be bad treated in school than rather shut up and stop trying to show people you are gay.
It is just about what you want and what you want to have and lose.
Hey, and congratulation to perfect BF :)
Megan said on 18 Apr 2008 at 6:28 pm # Quote
I say go for it, if people arnt accepting of it screw them they can go crawl in a hole and die, I say, if it feels good go for it!
Adam said on 21 Apr 2008 at 9:01 am # Quote
i say go for it men are hot and i like it up the ass to nothing is wrong with liking people of the same sex i have to say men are better than woman no offence girls good luck with the bf
age 16 said on 03 Jul 2008 at 6:15 am # Quote
hey, im ecstatic that you’ve found someone. i say do what feels right, talk to your bf about whats going on, and just live. itll all work out eventually…
Anonymous said on 27 Sep 2008 at 4:56 pm # Quote
Good luck. I came out at your age. Luckily girls are quite accepted, it was hard, some people would not accept it, but its worth it.