Do I have to ??
Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Mar 10th, 2008 | 9 commentsWell, Im engaged. Its been about 1.5 year
I fell in love first. I wanted him so much. He’s so sexy, cute with a great sense of humor and knowledgeable about almost everything. He is independent as well.
I loved him throughout this time despite of the fact that he was so aggressive sometime and he made me feel stupid in public.. Also I hated his parents since very first moment I met them & they never seemed kind 2 me although they know Im really the best he can have..
We went to a trip to Cyprus for a week, his behavoir was beyond tolerable..
After that I thought about breaking up with him every now & then. I threatened him so he started to be more considerable and apologized so many times and admited his mistakes.
Now it’s time to marry. Although he’s 30 he hasnt saved so much. His parents aren’t eager to help.His sister is my boss, she teases me in her very own way at work. His mother doesnt invite me for events, she just call him and that’s it.
Everything related to marriage & his family just gets on my nerves. What should I do ?
Please help me. Should I postpone the wedding? or I should break up? What can I do with my in-lows?
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Don’t marry him.
Get counseling together to explore if you can be compatible in the future, but don’t marry him right now. You two are not ready.
Your not marrying his parents doh rember that if u feel like ur in love with him then u shud do wat feels right and tell him about his parents to and see wat he says u shud just go with wat feels right deep inside
Walk away- any doubts you have while being engaged will only be confirmed after you are married.
If you have any doubts then don’t.
You’ll only regret it, believe me.
Run. Run far and fast. Nothing is going to improve from the way things are now.
The in-laws are not nearly as what’s important here as his temper and disrespect he gives to you. The question is do you love him enough that you are willing to live your life with this man knowing he has anger issues and verbal aggression which could turn to physical aggression if it hasn’t already? Not to mention the down talking he does to you that make you feel “stupid”? That is not expectable in my eyes. Good Luck!
Please! Please! Take a break and get away for some alone time. Just to think and evaluate. I just got out of the same thing…married for 12 years and 2 kids later!!! Please take a step back and really think about this. I know for a FACT his family will never change. I wonder if he has talked bad about you to them, which mine did behind my back. Just please save yourself the wasted years and the heartbreak of your future children….If you have ANY doubt don’t do it….I am 38 years old, 2 kids, divorced, and lonely. Make sure what you do feels right or don’t do it.
There’s a saying that when you marry someone, you marry their family too.
I thought I married the perfect man, and i’m happy but i feel like i could be happier, don’t settle for this guy, post pone the wedding at least, it sounds like your not as happy as a bride should be, take it from me, wait and don’t settle for anything less than the best, it’s easy for women to fall in love, be patient and when mr perfect show’s up and asks you to marry him, there will be no confusion trust me, you’ll know the right guy and sorry honey but this one is not it, vacationing should be fun, not a headache.