Comments on: Confused http://www.secret-confessions.com/confused/confused-4 Confess your deepest, darkest secret Fri, 21 Nov 2008 10:03:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Anonymous http://www.secret-confessions.com/confused/confused-4#comment-2193 Anonymous Mon, 01 Sep 2008 05:52:40 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=264#comment-2193 You said you have kids. You have to do what is best for THEM. You have to do what your mother & father did not. It is very hard, especially when you've had a hard life - like you. But while they are young and need their family (you & your husband) you must be there for your children. After they are grown with their own families, well - that's in the future. I dont know if it's possible, but try to figure a way to make your 'wifely duties' pleasant for you. You dont need to tell your husband what you're going through, but if there's something you like, compliment him on it. - Or try something different with him. I dont mean wearing costumes or anything. Maybe, after time has passed and your old lover has left AGAIN, try to look at your husband with new eyes, or go to a new place and flirt with him. What is it about your husband that you like - not just his support for you, but things you like about him as a person. Try to make the people around you happy. I haven't experienced the pain of love you have, so that is all I can say. You are a good lady. You love a lot and that means you have had a hard time with love. Your husband trusts you. He thinks that your are a good lady, and everything you say shows that YOU ARE A GOOD LADY. All your doubts, all your temptations, YOU ARE A GOOD LADY. Really. The other men you love/have loved, say they love you, but they show it by leaving you for their parents/wives. Your husband is there for both you and your children. It is hard to do the right thing and sometimes life sucks. You do the things you do because your parents didnt do their jobs. They were not good parents and it hurts you even now. Do not do that to your kids. I am hoping good things for you. Good luck. You said you have kids. You have to do what is best for THEM. You have to do what your mother & father did not. It is very hard, especially when you’ve had a hard life - like you. But while they are young and need their family (you & your husband) you must be there for your children. After they are grown with their own families, well - that’s in the future.

I dont know if it’s possible, but try to figure a way to make your ‘wifely duties’ pleasant for you. You dont need to tell your husband what you’re going through, but if there’s something you like, compliment him on it. - Or try something different with him. I dont mean wearing costumes or anything. Maybe, after time has passed and your old lover has left AGAIN, try to look at your husband with new eyes, or go to a new place and flirt with him. What is it about your husband that you like - not just his support for you, but things you like about him as a person.

Try to make the people around you happy. I haven’t experienced the pain of love you have, so that is all I can say.

You are a good lady. You love a lot and that means you have had a hard time with love. Your husband trusts you. He thinks that your are a good lady, and everything you say shows that YOU ARE A GOOD LADY. All your doubts, all your temptations, YOU ARE A GOOD LADY. Really. The other men you love/have loved, say they love you, but they show it by leaving you for their parents/wives. Your husband is there for both you and your children. It is hard to do the right thing and sometimes life sucks.

You do the things you do because your parents didnt do their jobs. They were not good parents and it hurts you even now. Do not do that to your kids. I am hoping good things for you. Good luck.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.secret-confessions.com/confused/confused-4#comment-1216 Anonymous Thu, 10 Apr 2008 08:12:50 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=264#comment-1216 Sounds to me as if a good counselor might help out your problems. You seem to have a pattern going here - only attaching yourself to people who are on a whole, incapable of returning your love. Like with how you perceive your parents inability to love you. Before you sabotage the only relationship you've found thus far by having an affair with a former lover - try to get some counseling. You are exhibiting deep seeded pathological childhood trauma issues. Sounds to me as if a good counselor might help out your problems. You seem to have a pattern going here - only attaching yourself to people who are on a whole, incapable of returning your love. Like with how you perceive your parents inability to love you.

Before you sabotage the only relationship you’ve found thus far by having an affair with a former lover - try to get some counseling. You are exhibiting deep seeded pathological childhood trauma issues.

]]> By: TJ http://www.secret-confessions.com/confused/confused-4#comment-1023 TJ Mon, 31 Mar 2008 10:43:51 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=264#comment-1023 Live life on your terms, Do what pleases you. And Love is not all about marriage. Live life on your terms, Do what pleases you. And Love is not all about marriage.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.secret-confessions.com/confused/confused-4#comment-1022 Anonymous Mon, 31 Mar 2008 10:41:37 +0000 http://www.secret-confessions.com/?p=264#comment-1022 What I believe is, "Love is not all about Marriage" What I believe is, “Love is not all about Marriage”

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