27 and confused
Posted by just confused in Confused on Apr 2nd, 2008 | 6 commentsin 7th and 8th grade my friend and myself experimented with eachother. This lasted about a year. he moved away and we went to different highschools. Since then there are certian urges I get to be with a guy. I have been married 4 years and I love my wife very much. I told her about this time in my life and she seems to understand but questions why I told her. I think I get off on telling her about what my friend and I did and how we got caught by his mother.
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hi your honesty is good with your wife but what im thinking is your thing is wanting ppl to know what happened or what you did and maybe you liked being WATCHED and oh maybe you dont know this but youre SECRETIVELY A GAY MAN you get urges to be with men youve had a thing with a another guy that lasted a year and when you were just in 7th and 8th grade mmmmmm young you started mmmmmm if you havent asked yourself the obvious question i think its abt time you should
Or maybe he’s not gay but bisexual. I hate it when people jump to conclusions and then automatically assume they are right. mmmmmmm person above me, you are dumb.
you may love her but you have to look deep inside yourself.
I think this is normal. I did the same thing when I was in 6th-7th grade. I let it slip once to my friend when I was drunk, he jokes with me about it, but doesn’t care.
I occasionally get the urges too, but I think that has something to do with having tried it. Most people don’t experiment like this (most guys I should say) and as such have no such urges after the strange adolescent stage. Having experimented and knowing that it isn’t as gross as some people make it out to be makes you more likely to want something different.
As a straight woman who has experimented with girls, I don’t find it odd you still have an attraction. There is a huge difference in being (bi)curious and wanting a deep meaningful relationship with another man.
If you do still worry about it, ask yourself if you could envision a lasting partnership.
I agree with the person right above me. Our society creates these pigeon holes for people to fit into (gay, straight) but really there’s a whole spectrum to sexuality. You can be mostly straight, with some interest in men too (and it doesn’t threaten your marriage any more than if you were strictly straight but continued to know you were interested in women). Don’t feel confused or weird-it’s totally normal. (btw, i did the same in 9th grade with my best friend, and neither of us admitted what we were doing and never got caught). Check out the movie “Kinsey”, it’s all about the fact taht sexuality is fluid from straight to gay and changes throughout our lives.