My Brother
Posted by Anonymous in Childhood on Apr 12th, 2009 | 16 commentsFrom when I was 8 years old til when I was 12, my brother used to touch me. He’d make me play ‘games’ with him and bring him to orgasm. I hated it, but I was too scared to tell anyone.
Now i’m 22 and i’m terrified of sex. I still see my brother all the time and he now has two little girls of his own.
No-one knows but it’s ruined my life.
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You should say something because if he did that to you who’s to say he hasn’t done it to his little girls, think about the danger that your little nieces are in, think about how much it ruined your life that it was your brother who did this to you, now think about the little girls and how much it will ruin there life’s when it’s there dad who does that to them.
Try to overcome that fear and take control of your life so you can also save your little nieces from him.
Dear,
things are in your control, What happened to you is past so you dont need to think about it.
But you should take care that he does not make your nieces do the same.
All the best.
I had some issues as a child as well…Men like that do not ever change and I would tell someone he might do the same to your neices…It is something in their brain thats not quite right and they cant help themselves. Please for your neices sake tell somone.
My cousins had a contest once to see how many times they could play sex games with me before i realized it was wrong. I was only 6. I’m scarred. You are scarred. My cousins are sick. I’ve never told anyone because I’m ashamed. You are probably ashamed (I’m assuming) but I think that you should tell someone. I think that your neices could be in danger. I do know that me saying this is slightly hypocritical, but please, for the sake of two more innocent souls, tell someone
It is true, your nieces are possibly in danger. The past is the past, but talking with someone does help. Going to a councilor helps with problems like that honey, and maybe it can ease your pain. Keep your chin up, and remember it ISN’T YOUR FAULT! It will become your fault if something happens to those girls and you don’t speak up though. Talk to them, to the mother, to a councilor. Good luck
put a stop to it and report this !!!!!
Wow, i feel the same! I’m very scared to have sex because of my cousins. I totally know how you feel.
Found someone who has gone and seen a councillor for a similar experience, please go see one. It does help and you may be able to help stop him from doing it to others and find out why he seemed to think it was ok.
Always know you have support around you, with the internet and anonymous helplines there is always someone to talk to.
Shame is a natural reaction to such a severely harmful experience. But look at the effects of your shame: It protects the sick criminal; it puts your nieces at great risk; it solidifies your victim status. Your abuser counts on your shame to keep on doing what he has always done. Your shame protects him. Your shame means he can keep on hurting people. The challenge is to transform your shame into pride. Be proud of all the people you will save from his torment by notifying the authorities.
Please muster all your strength and channel your shame into a positive direction. Transform your shame into self empowerment. Don’t let this man get away with murder. Tell the authorities before he hurts your nieces.
Look before you go off the deep end and **** up everybodies life you need to understand something.
1. Statute of limitation is probably long expired.
2. Those are HIS children not YOURS so mind your business.
3. See a therapist, your issues go BEYOND a little incest.
4. If you decide to go ahead and flap your piehole it will play out the same way. You will become a pariah in the eyes of your ENTIRE family. Especially if he is a pillar of his church or the community
5. Don’t listen to these fools offering up TELL TELL TELL cause in the end they don’t haveta deal with your family…YOU DO!!!!
6. Get help and get over it.
What the hell are you talking about!? Those little girls will most likely be put through the same thing. I can not beleive you are telling her to not tell. You want his daughters to be ****** up forever?! You are sick!
there is no place on earth which does not have an anonymous sexual assault help line. You can call these hotline in your community. They should be able to direct you in the kind of ressources available to you.
Dear, i know that what it used to happen between you and your brother was a hurtful and harmful experience and i know its haunting you…but u gotta know 1 thing…
those stuff are from the past…now u gotta live the present…move on ( i knw its hard ) start a new life… what happened was not a sin…i mean u were a kid…u didnt knw what u were doing…u were not conscious about it…and in the end, hes still your brother blood and flesh…but it was an accident… get counceling…and always know u have support around you…i know you are sad and afraid and hurt…but you have the right to live a relaxed and good life…i know and i can feel it deep of my heart that u can do it…you can rebuilt your life..you can regain your strength and your self esteem and live happily…so control your life ( i don’t know if hes doing it again with his daughters but u gotta save them, protect them…)so..good luck…and let me hear from you…
You need to tell someone, if not for you, but for his little girls.
They are vulnerable and young. If he can do that to his sister then what’s stopping him from doing it to them?
don’t be a bitch your whole life… Just let it go, let him raise his daughters how he sees fit and don’t **** up another otherwise happy family because of your issues.
my brother did it to me from i was very young till i was 12 and i havent told anyone for 26 years i thought i put the past behind me and now ive found out he has been molesting his daughters, im sick with gulit for not having told i and ashamed ive let him ruin the lives of these kids so please dont make the same mistake as i did