Its ok
Posted by SKD in Childhood on Mar 22nd, 2008 | 7 commentsI just wanted to post this in response to the post i just read.
I was sexually abused by my step-father from the ages of ten through thirteen. I was so scared everytime it happened that i couldn’t move a muscle. I would tell my mother every morning after it happened and she would say that it would never happen again, and it always did. I had to live with that man for five years. I finally made him stop but i couldn’t leave so i had to stay until i graduated from high school. when i later brought it up to my mother and accused her of being as much at fault as him, she said that i was crazy and that i needed to be commited for even thinking that it had ever happened. I had told social workers that it happened and they asked my mother for confirmation. when my mother found out about it she said i was lying to get them in trouble. She and i got into a fight after it. I am only saying that it is not right for a father, brother, uncle, neighbor, ANYONE! to touch you without your permission. it is not ok. it is not fine, you cannot self medicate it. it will not stop until you take a stand and MAKE it stop. find a teacher, a cop, a neighbor who you trust. find some way to get out of the situation. find someone to let you stay the night with them and then go to the police about it. Do not let yourself become another statistic. i am sick of the abuse victims who think that they are not good enough to be saved. you are worth it. I made myself worth it and i am going to work my hardest to find a way for others to get out of it.
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i really liked your spirit, that what it takes to make us worth it. keep it up that way.
You Rock, keep on helping as many people as possable, because you really can make a difference in this world
plzzz helllpp me icant do it
I’m a victim of sexual abuse as well, and you are right – you cannot allow yourself to become a victim of circumstance or just another statistic. Bad things happen, but life goes on. You just have to pull yourself up and make the changes because nobody else can do that for you.
I am happy to say that I am now happily married and in a healthy and functional relationship. The man who abused me got hardly a slap on the wrist, but I made sure that I wouldn’t allow him to continue that abuse by becoming a healthy and sane adult. It wasn’t easy – but it was definitely worth it.
God bless you…I have been there and done that. it is so hard. This si just one of the reasons I cant get along with my father…
I agree whole-heartidly.
From the ages of 11-13 I was sexually abused by my biological father. It is so hard tellign someone what is happening and I am sorry that your mother didn’t listen to you. I however seem lucky since when I told my mother she instantly got my step-dad on the phone(he is a cop) and sorted things out. I remember telling myself that it would stop, that he was confused and didnt know what he was doing, but from the point of view of a child, it is hard.
From what I went though, it also made me want to be able to help others in my situation. I am 16 now and am looking on the bright side of life. Telling someone a trusted was the best thing that I ever did.
i agree but ! im also tired of all these therapist automatically pointing peoples problems to being abused , molested , raped etc. i know of some parents as well as another man that were wrongly acused of these terrible acts and have had their lives destroyed because of it !just because someone has mental problems, gay,lives a drug infested life ,etc doesnt mean they were abused or molested !i had to see a doctor for a short time and was asked several times if anything had ever happened to me .i felt like they were almost forcing me to make up or create something that happened to me in my childhood !! i believe bad things happen and its terrible but i also believe its becoming somewhat of a fad or epidemic to have been molested ! seriously , i had someone tell me that if you touch a kids but while picking them up or carring them around that it is a form of abuse ! give me a break !!!!! you know we live in a sick world when we have to walk around making sure we dont touch someone the wrong way while in public for fear of someone calling cps or the cops on us for something innocent!!!