Wife sold our fairy tale for magic beans

I can’t tell my wife what her affair really did to me.
When I met my wife, I found her beautiful. She was everything I wanted, physically and intellectually. She was a little messed up, but I understood her problems and she understood mine. We married. We have 2 kids. After the second kid, our sex life died. Completely. I was miserable. I spent years trying to fix it, trying to get you in the mood, trying to ignore you to get you to pursue me (which was great for you), EVERYTHING. After 4 years of trying, I gave up. I decided that I loved you so much that I’d just go celibate. I’d do that for you, even though it was the most important thing for me in a relationship. It’s how I know love, how I feel connected, how I feel close. I decided to give that up, just so I could spend time with you. I decided to focus on everything that was GOOD in my life, including you, and become a different – a better – person.
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When I hate my husband I really hate him, but when I love him, I really really love him

Does that make any sense? My husband and I can get along so amazingly well, and I will think about him all day and look forward to him coming home after work so we can spend time together. I will think about him and hope he doesnt get hurt or in an accident or that he doesnt have a bad day at work, but when we are fighting, I really hate his guts. I will wish he would crash and get hurt, possibly die. I will wish he would feel the pain he has caused me from his cheating or past abuse. I will rememeber all the terrible things he has done to me and how I feel out family is not stable because of him. But how could you feel this way or wish such terrible things of someone if you really loved them? Is this normal?
Im a stay at home mom and I love my children and want them to succeed in life, but lately I am so miserable. AND I blame being miserable on HIM(my husband). I never have anytime to myself! I have 3 kids. twin boys(3) and a girl(6). I dont dislike being a stay at home mom, BUT I dislike the fact that I have given all of myself to everyone else…….and there is none left for me. My husband isn’t as helpful as I would like. If he has a bad day he comes home and is moody and will get on his Motorcyle and go out. But I would never do that, I would never walk out the door as he walked in. Sometimes I think I give to much of myself to everyone, im always worried about offending someone. ahhhhhhh, I am so frustrated. I have so much to say but nobody to listen. Im angry, depressed, lonely, resentful, bored, disappointed and sad.

Cheating on my husband with a suicidal lover

I started cheating on my husband 6 months ago with a man a met at a club where i work. Sex with this man is just so great and my husband does not fulfill me like i want. Several times i considered leaving my husband for this man who tells me that he is head over heals in love with me but just never brought myself to doing it. My husband is a good man and father and i do not want to loose that either. I feel extremely guilty for what i’m doing and this is just taking up way too much of my energy and time for me to continue having a good relationship with my husband. My lover gets so jelouse of other clients at work and everytime he goes to the club to see me i cannot relax and work because he is looking at every move i make. He will even text me late at night saying he knows i haven’t called him because i’m “making love to my husband.” I just cant take it anymore. So, several times i have tried to leave my lover and he will start crying and pleading me not to leave him and insinuating that he will kill himself if i leave him. He says that i am the center of his world and that he does not want and will not live without me. If he was to do something to himself because of me i would just hate myself for the rest of my life. I can’t leave him, I’m stuck, I don’t know what to do. I love both of them but I had chosen to stay with my husband. So now i’m thinking of leaving my husband again because i feel like i will never be able to get rid of my lover and know i need to end my relationship with one of them before the stress kills me.

Husband is a hypocrite

I’ve been married for 17 years and my husband has cheated on me for most if not all of them. He loves to live in his little world of make believe where he can F^@% anybody and I am supposed to sit her and live with weak sex in ignorant bliss. He takes pride in being the responsible church going family man on the outside and complete freak on the inside. He won’t give me oral but will suck off any man better than my vacuum cleaner. Every time we talk about it he always gives some piss poor lie of an excuse and then says how he loves me but continues to cheat. A few days ago I told him he’d been caught again but this time I didn’t care because I’d intended to have my fun as well. I wanted everything out in the open well that was like raid to him now he’s a clam snapping at me anytime I mention what’s he up to or me venturing out and doing the same. I know he got really pissed off the other day while we were out and I bought condoms. He probably thinks I’m going to make him wear them but they are really for when I go out on my own dates. I don’t care if we never have sex again and plan to divorce him as soon as my kids are out of high school in a couple years. Right now I just hate all men!

I wish he wanted me more.

My husband of nearly two years and I hardly if ever have sex. We’re both in our twenties which makes it painful and embarrassing. He always makes excuses saying he’s either too tired or not feeling well not even realizing that he hurts me everytime he turns away from my advances. I know he is faithful, but his lack of a sex drive makes me feel unattractive.

She lies

After paying off all my wife’s credit cards to the tune of almost 25K. I recently found out that she got 2 more and racked up almost 5K in debt.

Instead of having the bills come here at home they were going to my daughters home (yeah her accomplish). And now that the minimum payments are more than she makes she comes clean and wants my help paying them off.

Frankly I don’t know what to do. I cannot stand a liar. I’m so mad I’m not even speaking to her unless its some sort of mutual concern. I’m also entertaining the thought of moving out. I hate all this crap!!!

I cheat on my wife plain and simple

Hello all, basically I have been with the same woman since 17 yrs old, I’m 36 now and we have two children. She is pretty good fun on the whole and I try and give her the best of every thing.
The problem is I work away from home on ships and rigs and if the opportunity presents it’s self I will have a one night stand. This has been going on and off over the years, some times with long periods (5yrs or more)with out. Recently I have had sex with women, some paid for, and I feel I can’t go on like this, I know I will end up ruining my family and I do love my wife.
I need to stop before I do permanent damage to my marriage or worse and so I can feel good about my self again and get on with life, I don’t even enjoy it and have to get a little drunk for courage.

I realy don’t know why I do it but think it is the excitement which scares me. I really want to stop and I know it is down to me.

I have never told any one about this so do you think counseling will help? does any one know if there is there a discussion forum I can use to talk about this.

Why the hell did we get married?

Before my husband became my husband-he was ******* my mom. I was actually really glad she had met him cause she seemed younger and happier. As a matter of fact, when I first met him I thought he looked like a douche, was so not my type, and made fun of him-but was still happy for my mom. Didnt really talk to him. One day you asked me why I never came out of my room when you were working-alcohol has clouded my memories-but to make a long story short we ended up wrestling and talking and drinking and all of a sudden all we wanted to do to each other was ****. Fast forward eight years later, and we are married witha beautiful wonderful baby. Sex sucks for the both of us-I feel like a disposavble hole with no emotional connection, and I hate that you are an alcoholic. Plus you are a bigamist-even though after we got married you then got divorced from 2nd wife. I have thought about leaving you many times-but we never have enough money to make it feasible or you try to make up by indulging my materialistic desires. I want you to know I am horny-not frigid (like I am with you), I use the things you bought and that I refuse to use with you-to pleasure myself in secret. We could be good for each other if we both learned how to be partners-however-it seems that is a pipedream that will never happen. When will I have an answer for myself which will lead to action-I am tired of waiting for one and want to change for the better.

crap

my husband just got told he can either quit his job now, or wait until his license is revoked for DUI in a month – one screw up (yes it was a big one, but still one) and his and our lives are ******

Swinger

How do I tell my husband I would like to venture out in to the swinger lifestyle. We need to revive our sex life cause it has died. Mostly because he refuses to acknowledge the fact he can’t last longer than 2 minutes unless he has been drinking. His ego won’t allow him to go see a doctor and get the little blue pill for my sake. I have tried various things to spice things up, watching porn, dressing up role playing, and various other porn star acts. He gets his but I am left disappointed.

Wanting to leave my Husband

Sent my husband a text that, if it weren’t for our child, I would not be in this relationship..( after he called both of us lazy for not shoveling the snow for the second time in a day.
I am truly tired of our “married” facade.
Loved him, “Once upon a time”, not feeling it at present.
Guess, I am waiting for him to release me….

i know you are cheating on me

all the signs are there…

i see it…
i feel it…
ive caught you in small things….
i know you dont love me anymore…

please just let me go if you dont love me….
why keep dragging me through this….