Not sure if I should LEAVE MY HUSBAND

Posted by anon in Spouse on Oct 2nd, 2010 | 8 comments

DAMN… I never thought id ask myself this. How did I not see the fact that he is so irritable, defensive, and unable to handle stress or more than one thing at a time. He’s not a ‘bad’ guy.. Hes not an alcoholic, He doesnt beat me!

BUT try to get him to engage in a conversation.. Try to have a disagreement without a huge argument.. Try to talk and dream about the future, NOPE. not really gonna happen.

If I tell him about my day, I should give him the short 2 min summary because listening to me for more than 5 minutes is SUPER challenging for him…

REALLY? I dont ask for a lot.. but this SUCKS and well,, sometimes we are happy,, so is that good enough? Sometimes he makes dinner and cleans, so does that make everything ok?

Just because he doesnt beat me, has a job, and is able to do a few things around the house…. I should stay??

I DONT KNOW IF I WILL

I’m not sure I can keep doing this:

Posted by Anon in Spouse on Sep 27th, 2010 | 10 comments

You are like having another child.

You are moody and expect to be rewarded for everything. Every other person in the world works a 40 hour a week job, and doesn’t act like it is the end of the world.

I am weary of protecting you, we both know you could have renewed your contract with your last job, but instead of doing that, you quit. You quit and let us struggle for over a year to make ends meet, put food on the table, and even pay the rent.

I am sick of you talking down to the kids, especially our daughter.

I am tired of watching your acting skills playing out in real life. You try to say whatever you think will make you look good publicly, and yet so much of it is lies:

You do not snuggle.

You are not patient with the kids.

You are angry.

You are not affectionate (unless people are around).

You are so very much your mother’s son with your passive aggressive and directly aggressive bs.

I *will* leave you if things do not get better.

Just Go!

Posted by Anonymous in Spouse on Aug 24th, 2010 | 0 comments

I took you back after you shattered our marriage and family with your adultery for three reasons. I thought I still loved you, I thought you could change into ‘a woman whom you can respect and trust to make the right choices’ and for our kids.

This weekend at your parents you proved what a worthless piece of s**t you really are. At one time you were my one in a million, now you’re just another self absorbed spoiled bitch no one wants to listen to. The kids don’t like you, too many years of neglect on your part.

If anyone has to leave it’s YOU! The only mistake I ever made was trusting and loving someone who wasn’t worthy of it. Just give us all some peace and leave…

i’m horrible

Posted by anon in Spouse on Aug 14th, 2010 | 4 comments

Sometimes I wish my husband would just kill himself instead of having to deal with his depression and debt and dui and job loss etc etc etc

Husband Beats Me & Kids Drive Me Mad

Posted by Anon Desperate Woman in Spouse on Jul 1st, 2010 | 25 comments

I have been married for just over 2 years. We have 2 children together (boys), one is 20 months and the other 6 months.

My husband and I have so much in common that it is uncanny, yet there is a dark side to him. He will constantly beat, kick, slap me, whenever he feels like it. He will blame me for all things wrong in our lives and take credit for all good. He will slap me if he loses his phone, and will blame me for it, for example. OR if one of our sons cries, he will beat me up, claiming I am a bad mother.

He does not work, nor does he help me with the kids (he wanted). In addition my eldest kid screams at me all day and has now started to hit me (I think he has picked it up from his dad). My husband spends most his days with his family and not with me.

Now I know you all must be saying GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT!! BUT it is not that easy, because aside from the times he beats me, we get on amazingly (and ironically have even been name the golden couple amongst friends and family). Also I do love him, and dont think I could cope with the kids on my own. I do love my kids but he pressured me into having the first one when I unexpectedly fell pregnant and also pushed for the second, which I conceded in giving him.

What should I do?

i think i want a divorce…

Posted by Anonymous in Spouse on Jun 25th, 2010 | 11 comments

we got married in august 2009. we just had a baby boy, who is 6 weeks old. we also have a 6 year old daughter, and he has a 10 year old son from a previous relationship who lives with us. we have been on and off for 10 years… i think i finally realize that i don’t love him. he is mean. just verbally mean. he calls the kids retarded, tells them to shut their yaps, calls me a stupid bitch if we fight…he isn’t loving, concerned about any of us in the slightest. he never tells me he loves me or cares about me. he never shows me. his words are killing me inside. he smokes pot alot. i just cry for what could be, but i know it will always be this way. if i tell him he’s mean, he just calls me mean too. he can’t take responsibility for his actions. he is angry all the time. he is a big jerk. sometimes i hate him. even if he’s being nice or did something nice. i always know it’s only for the moment and then he’ll go back to being mean again. every day. every day there’s lack of compassion, understanding, loving kind tender words. he’s such a jerk!

i’m confused

Posted by anonymous in Spouse on Jun 25th, 2010 | 4 comments

i’m so confused and tensed about my relationshp with my husband and his family. my husband himself is a nice person and i think he loves me but i don’t know y i’m not too sure if he really loves me or he just pretending to love me. i don’t understand what is going inside of me rite now, when ever he is with his family he is a different person, he will lie to me and then later i will find out that oh he knew about this thing and he never told me or lied to me, or sometimes his family would say something and he would start fighting with me but when he is alone with me he would show me as he loves me the most…

i’m a good looking girl but he would never praise me i’m just 22 years old and i feel like my life is over and i fell like i wanna die. i have a son with him and he is only a year old. i’m all by myself and have to take care of him my son and my husband’s whole family but still his mom would find a way to feed him with the stupid thoughts. he wouldn’t come and start fighting with me but i can feel it from the way he would start reacting!

i’m the only one cleaning, cooking, taking care of the baby ad i have no friends no family and noone i can share what i have in my heart.. i feel like crying rite now! i’m confuused if he is the rite person for me.. i sometimes think that he only wants sex from me nothing else and i’m a useless peice of shit staying in his house.. i’m tired of being a mom, i am tired of being a wife, i’m done with all this hatred that i have got….!

I am in an unhappy marriage

Posted by Diana in Spouse on Jun 22nd, 2010 | 2 comments

he used to beat me, now he abuses me verbally. Sometimes he says he loves me and misses me. Usually he calls me a b**** and lazy. I try to be a good wife/mother, I am not perfect. I have had my share of mistakes. He wants me to pay for them. He says he loves me and wants to be with me forever, and at other times, he tells me about other women that want him, and that he’ll divorce me and be with the one he chooses. I love him, but I hate the way i feel. I feel like he is using me for sex. I am not happy with him, but I cannot let him go. I can’t be without him. i just want him to love me…truly…

Lazy Cow

Posted by Queen Bee Regina in Spouse on Jun 14th, 2010 | 5 comments

I hate when he lazes in bed until noon. I tell him every time. Proves he is not contributing to the household or the world. Shame is, he’ll be surprised when I leave him for it.

I am engaged to a wonderful man

Posted by Ohdear in Spouse on Jun 13th, 2010 | 12 comments

But i am secretly a lesbian. And i hate sex with him.

husband went out again

Posted by Anonymous in Spouse on Jun 7th, 2010 | 5 comments

My husband goes out alone often………where does he go? am I stupid for believing that he goes out alone?

hate my exhusband

Posted by Marie in Spouse on Jun 2nd, 2010 | 10 comments

When in the world will you stand up and be a man, I gave you the info and your still not going to help me, our daughter is in danger, she’s taking X and you think its no big deal… are you kidding me WTF your not suppose to be her buddy you moron, your her father, the man who is suppose to kick anyones butt if they hurt her… guess what jack this drug will KILL HER if WE are her parents dont do something NOW not wait for something more like her DIE and say I should have done something.. I dont want to be that parent… and I dont care I will ask for help from everyone…. that includes YOUR family, hate me all you want… but I will NOT sit back and let all this happen>> I WONT!!!!! Suck it up Princess you have to be a father!