crap

my husband just got told he can either quit his job now, or wait until his license is revoked for DUI in a month – one screw up (yes it was a big one, but still one) and his and our lives are ******

Swinger

How do I tell my husband I would like to venture out in to the swinger lifestyle. We need to revive our sex life cause it has died. Mostly because he refuses to acknowledge the fact he can’t last longer than 2 minutes unless he has been drinking. His ego won’t allow him to go see a doctor and get the little blue pill for my sake. I have tried various things to spice things up, watching porn, dressing up role playing, and various other porn star acts. He gets his but I am left disappointed.

Wanting to leave my Husband

Sent my husband a text that, if it weren’t for our child, I would not be in this relationship..( after he called both of us lazy for not shoveling the snow for the second time in a day.
I am truly tired of our “married” facade.
Loved him, “Once upon a time”, not feeling it at present.
Guess, I am waiting for him to release me….

i know you are cheating on me

all the signs are there…

i see it…
i feel it…
ive caught you in small things….
i know you dont love me anymore…

please just let me go if you dont love me….
why keep dragging me through this….

i am in love with my husbands brother….

my husband and i had our 1st daughter when we were young…. we did the responsible thing… we got married..bought a home..started a family and a life…

i have given up everything.. college..career… friends.. everything because my daughter means more to me than anything ever….

you however,didnt give anything up.. you got worse.. you kept partying…you stayed out all night.. you never came home… you didnt know anything about she or i….

at this point we have been married for 8 yrs…. we have now a second daughter… who also means more to me than anything else.. for our daughters sake i have stayed this long….

your brother and i are in love..real love…

~he kisses me on the forehead always, bc he wants to
*i ask you to,, you ask why and get annoyed

~he wants me all the time. and makes me feel AMAZING about ME!!
*you .. i have to remind you to kiss me ..even after not seeing you in 3 months .(he travels alot for “work”). and we never have sex because i can completely throw myself at you..and you find a reason we cant have sex..yet you blame it on me later.

~he calls me all day long because he misses me and WANTS to talk to me
*i have to remind you to call me ..you have to write it on your hand to remember to call me..and when we do talk it is for 5 minutes then you always have to go for some reason or another

~he brings me flowers and buys me sweet little nothings all the time for no other reason, but he loves me and was thinking of me…
*i havent gotten a gift from you for my birthday ,valentines day, christmas.. nothing.. let alone no reason.. in 8 years…

~he pays attention to the girls, and loves them.
*you are too busy to pay attention to them.(and that hurts me worse than knowing you dont love me anymore)

i could go on and on… but, to make a long story short….
your brother has loved me for 5 years.. and i am scared to lose him… but, i cant bring myself to leave you..because even though the feelings are clearly, not reciprocated, i still love you..
but, i am also in love with your brother..

Husband

Sometimes I get disgusted with myself that I married him.

Waisted My Time

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 7 YEARS AND WE ARE YET TO HAVE CHILDREN OF OUR OWN.MY WIFE REFUSES TO CONCEIVE BECAUSE SHE DOES NOT WANT CHILDREN OF HER OWN.HER MOTHER TOLD ME SHE DOES NOT WANT KIDS OF HER OWN,CONFIRMING WHAT I HAVE BEEN SUSPECTING SINCE 5 YEARS.THAT IF I TRY AND ITS NOT WORKING OUT,I SHOULD FIND MYSELF ANOTHER WOMAN.

SHE VIRTUALLY LIVES IN THE KITCHEN.SMOKES AND DRINKS HEAVILY THERE.I DO NOT SMOKE BUT OCCASIONALLY DRINK.
WHEN THERE IS MISUNDERSTANDING BETWEEN US,SHE REFUSES TO TALK TO ME FOR MONTHS.THE LAST TIME BEING 4 MONTHS CONSECUTIVELY.ACCUMULATIVELY IN A YEAR WE TALK LESS THAN 5 MONTHS.THE LAST QUARREL,SHE THREATENED TO SHUT HER MOUTH WHICH SHE HAS DONE.WHEN TALKING WILL RESUME I DO NOT KNOW.SHE TREATS HER MOTHER LIKE THAT TOO.HER FATHER IS LATE.

SHE REFUSES ME SEX BUT MASTUBATES.THE LAST TIME I CAUGHT HER,I WAS LIVID.WHY?BECAUSE SHE REFUSES ME BUT MASTUBATES.I ASKED HER WHY SHE MASTUBATES?HER ANSWER CAME IN FORM OF QUESTION:”WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME I TOUCHED HER”?WHEN SHE REFUSED ME 3 DAYS BEFORE!HER REASON FOR REFUSING ME IS ALWAYS BEING TIRED OR I DID NOT ASK WELL ENOUGH.WILL I GO ON MY KNEES TO ASK MY WIFE FOR SEX?

HAVE AND STILL SET TRAP FOR HER IN CASE SHE SLEEPS WITH OTHER MEN,NO,SHE DOES NOT.SHE IS SO RECLUSIVE,MORE THAN THE PRESIDENT OF NORTH KOREA BUT STILL EXPECTS ME TO GUESS WHAT SHE IS THINKING.

I LOVE KIDS SO MUCH AND WANT TO HAVE MY OWN.AM SO SO DESPERATE TO BE A FATHER THAT I WILL NOT MIND FROM OUTSIDE WEDLOCK.UNDERSTANDABLE SOME MIGHT NOT WANT KIDS DUE TO CAREER,FEAR OR SOME OTHER REASON BUT NOT WANTING AT ALL TO ME IS STRANGE.WHEN WE TALKED ABOUT IT,HER REASON WAS WHY SHOULD ONE BRING INTO THE WORLD A CHILD THAT WILL ONE DAY DIE LIKE EVERYOTHER LIVING THING?AM YET TO UNDERSTAND!

HAVE MADE UP MY MIND TO WALK AWAY FROM HER AT THE END OF THE YEAR.

Doing the right thing is so hard!

I know it’s wrong! It’s not meant to be, people have to make choices and my choice was to get married. Granted no one should make that choice at 22 but there you go, what’s done is done. Nearly 10 years down the line plus 2 kids can’t turn back the clock now.

We are a bit like strangers, living in the same house, well that is when you are home. Even when you are home you are up stairs sleeping and watching porn. You demand sex when it suits you, now romance and wants things I don’t like to do. You call me boring and dull. I can’t remember when last you said you loved me. You share your bed with her every other night and says it means nothing….. that you are just sleeping. And though I might believe you on that count, it still hurts my feelings. You never want to talk to me or go for walks or spend any time with me. In fact if you could never spend time with me you would be happy.

You come home and demand to be fed, when it’s not to your exact specifications you lose it. I’m here to watch your kids, even if you consider me to be a bad mom and pick up after you.

Do you blame me for falling for him? He talks to me and laughs at my jokes and thinks I’m funny and kind. He looks at me with eyes that say a thousand words. He makes my skin tingle and give me butterflies.

Yet for the sake of the boys I decided to stay with you, I’m not going to ruin their lives by being the bad mother who left their wonderful dad for some other guy.

Now I never see him and we hardly talk, I miss him so much. He told me to save my marriage, that we are not meant to be but when I see him my heart aches.

Do you know what I’ve given up? Do I know what I’ve given up? Was he my chance to be loved and appreciated?

If only you would be kinder and more loving I might feel this is all worth while, even if only for the boys. I hope that I don’t regret this all one day when I end up all alone with no one to love and no one to love me….

I’m so in love with this other man it’s breaking my heart!
I have decided to do the right thing but it’s hard cause you don’t treat me the way I deserve, the way he’s shown me I can be treated…. and that without even having sex with him.

UNSURE WIFE

Been married 4 years many ups and downs, husand very supportive but has his issues, like watching porn, drinks, spends money. Most of our relationship has been apart due to his career, so causes stress. After first child starting talking to an ex on internet and phone, caught him. decided I took a vow so we are working through it. I’m so afraid that one day I will find somthing much worse than that, and don’t know if I can ever get over it. Now I am very need and I can see its causing stress, cause I question things and don’t feel he pays enough attention to me and him romantically. The sex is unbelievble and we connect amazingly that way, but seem to disagree everywhere else in life. I love him so much and could imagine life without him, but hate how I feel sccared,

New Year’s kiss

It’s New Year’s Eve and I wish I was kissing you instead of my husband. I have wished this for the past 9 years. It hasn’t gotten any easier since you left me for her. I miss you like hell…

I hate being a mom and a wife!

Why did I do this to myself? I hate my husband! He has cheated twice on me and I can’t leave. I am a stay at home mom of two kids and I don’t have any work experience. He works nights and weekends and I stay with the kids 24/7. We don’t have any family that live in the same state so I never get a break. I HATE MY LIFE. I gained 30lbs since my husband started being unfaithful. I try to make myself feel better by eating and it is only making feel worse. Is there anyway out of this hell? Don’t worry, I don’t plan on killing myself. I just wish I had options.

Caught my wife for the second time

My story is long. My wife and I met when I was engaged to another woman. I deceived both of them so that they knew nothing of each other for a while. As you can imagine my wife had some trust issues with me at the beginning of our relationship, but I know I’ve shown her how faithful I’ve been. She set the boundaries for us by stating that being unfaithful was the worst thing I could do to her.

A year or so ago I found some old emails where she was chatting to some guy, obviously flirting but didn’t go too far. I took it badly but forgave her as we were going through a rough patch and as he lived in another country I was not threatened.

Over the summer we had a really hard time but we managed to scrape through the hardest challenges to our relationship thus far. Things got a little better after that but just recently she has been telling me that she is unhappy and didn’t know what she wanted in her life, but couldn’t say exactly what the problem was. I lost my job and it hit pretty hard and she tells me that she panicked when I sat around for a week or so feeling sorry for myself. I turned it all around though have a new job now and things are going better. Then the crying started over the last week, with her stating that she was unhappy.

This morning I found more emails from a co-worker of hers. They have been training in the gym together, been shopping together, met for coffee and such. I got mad and confronted her and she confessed to everything, said she was unhappy as she knew she was hurting me and was trying to end it. She was so relieved that I had found out and it had come to an abrupt end. I do believe her when she says that nothing sexual happened but the type of things they did together and the way they chatted really hurt me and I’m struggling to come to terms with it.

In a way I’m glad I found out now as I’m not sure where it would have led but I’m really having trouble figuring out how I’m going to trust her again.

She says she likes the person but the feelings she has for me are far greater and she only turned to him for someone to talk to when we went through a rough patch, then it went a bit too far and she got scared, she called him and ended it immediately after being confronted. She admits that she has been happier with our relationship over the last few weeks but has been riddled with guilt about this other guy and was planning to end it today when they would meet.

I’ve seen so many emotions today, anger, sadness, despair the works but just need some unbiased perspective on what to do now.

Any help appreciated.

Thanks