love and lust

Posted by anonymous in Confused on May 5th, 2009 | 9 comments

After 10 yrs my marital sex life has literally gone to hell. I ran into an old friend a few months ago. One thing lead to another and now we’re trying to hook up at least once a week. I love my husband, but I don’t know if I’m in love with him anymore (it actually hurts to admit that). I know I don’t love the other guy, I know it’s just a friendship that evolved into a sexual relationship. I want more from him though. I shouldn’t since I’m married and he has a girlfriend. I would never leave my husband, he means too much to me and I could never hurt him like that. If he found out he would be devestated. I would never ask my guy friend to leave his girl, but I can’t help but wonder what my life would have been like if I had pursued things 11 yrs. ago. Would I be happily married to a very attractive man, would I have his children, would we have everything my husband and I do and do not have? And of course, how long can this thing last? Another week, another month, another year, the rest of our lives?

Who Am I ??????

Posted by anony in Confused on Apr 5th, 2009 | 4 comments

1. I have a girl friend and I’m a girl.
2. I hate my mom for being so tight with money sometimes I wish her ill.
3. I hate people who judge me.
4. I lie.
5. My life is a mess.
6. I hate people around me especially if they get in my way.
7. I’m a selfish, pretentious bitch and I don’t know what to do

Lesbian??

Posted by AnonymousV in Confused on Jan 14th, 2009 | 10 comments

So I’m a lesbian and I’ve been with the same woman for close to five years now. I’ve started getting on xtube a few nights a week, sometimes more. But the only thing that turns me on much on there is men masturbating or 2 men having sex. Some of the straght sex is good…. but I don’t like any of the lesbian stuff on there. I’ve started getting real turned on by the thought of d**k. What’s going on here?

My Desire

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Jan 13th, 2009 | 3 comments

It’s been almost 17 years since I had this man in my life.. and I still want him so bad. We had a brief, intense sexual expierence together, and it was sooo great I really wanted to further our relationship, but that didnt happen.. not sure why not. But I have found him again, and I cannot get him off my mind. We have been communicating thru text, and have spoken to each other, and we are both very flirtatious. 1 BIG problem, I’m married. I never really had a chance to close the door on what we had before… He wants to meet, and I’m hoping he’s ugly and has bad breath, so I can close the door, but I’m afraid I will become weak and let my desires take over…

unhappy

Posted by lil lezzie in Confused on Dec 30th, 2008 | 4 comments

I have been attracted to women for as long as I can remember. Even when I was a child, I remember having ‘crushes’ (although back then I didn’t realize what they were) on different women. I’ve never really been attracted to men.

I came out when I was 18, and I would have done so earlier but my family is Southern Baptist, and would have disowned me. Well, they did so anyways. This year they have been more into pulling me back into the family and me being a part of them.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years, and 6 months ago I cheated on her with a guy. She knew about it the day of, and I was completely honest with her about it. I didn’t want a relationship with the guy, nor the sex, I suppose I was curious since I had never been with a guy. I regret the whole thing totally, and I wish I could take it back.

We agreed to work things out, and things have been better between us. Except the intimacy. She has moved past the incident I mentioned before, and still there is little intimate affection. Sure we cuddle when we go to bed, but not much other than that. And I like to have sex a lot…but it’s like she can go weeks or months without it. I want to be with her but maybe it’s that I don’t feel attractive anymore…I have gained a little bit of weight and I don’t do my hair or makeup anymore. But other people want me……..so I don’t understand.

What do I do???

I am in love with my neice (my cousin’s daughter)

Posted by Lorenzo in Confused on Nov 29th, 2008 | 30 comments

Hi all,
this is one thing that i would never be able to talk to any one about…
I have a neice who is 15 yrs younger to me. she is my maternal cousin’s(brother’s) daughter. After her mother’s death she came to live with us (my mother and my cousin’s mother were sisters)she was a small kid of 6. My mother took care of her. Now she is 17 and i am 32
I left home to go to another city for a job and used to come home every christmas and easter. Last year in the month of July my mother fell sick and i had to come down to see her. I had never thought this would happen but as usual i was talking to my neice and suddenly had this strange feeling and I held my neice’s hand and said that if i wanted to marry her what would be her reply. she didn’t say anything and just sat there. later that day i was sleeping and she came up to me and hugged me and said that she too had the same feeling towards me… my heart skipped a beat and i too hugged her.
we used to hug each other in the begining later it grew to fondling and kissing and then it led to us making love.
somehow my family started suspecting us and sent her off to her uncles house. she is staying there for the past 8 months.
both of us are in love with each other and want to get married. i am not sure whether this is possible as we being indians we have a much orthodox approach to these kind of relationships.
We both truely love and miss each other and want to be together always.

My cofusion is whether whatever our feelings are towards each other, is it right.
Please help us…

Confused

Posted by Kid in Confused on Nov 21st, 2008 | 4 comments

I have this relationship with this girl I swear was obsessed with me. She says she loves me all the time, we plan futures together, talk about children and everything. But why do I always catch her chatting with guys about really nasty stuff (webcams). Is she just leading me on? I have no idea what to do. I’m just waiting for her to cheat on me. As a very jealous man I have no idea what I would do if I was to find her with her little rendezvous.

Am I wrong? Is it time to quit?

i think im gay

Posted by Salena in Confused on Nov 15th, 2008 | 7 comments

i have a boyfriend but i had sex with a girl on my bithday. We were at a party and i was drunk and she took me upstairs and kissed me and we had sex. i dont know if im gay but i kind of liked it.

life

Posted by anonymous in Confused on Oct 18th, 2008 | 1 comment

I feel so lonely sometimes, I try to think back to past times, when things were simple. I wish I didn’t drink, yet its what keeps me going, so to speak…

Me

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Aug 31st, 2008 | 3 comments

I am a deeply complicated girl. And I secretly blame it on everyone else (parents, unrequited crushes, etc). I just have the feeling having a perfect relationship would help me.. But when I did have one, I just snapped and snapped ’til it broke down.
My biggest fear is this: I’ll never love and be loved in return. Yet love would never leave me content – I know it. Lose/lose situation.
I dunno. I really dunno. Just babblin’ here.

Help

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Aug 30th, 2008 | 6 comments

Okay, the other night I had a neighborhood party in my driveway. I got way too drunk. I’ve never been that drunk. Problem is I’m not sure if I kissed my neighbor or not (we are both married). I vaguely remember his tongue in my mouth and saying “we can’t get caught” but I’m not sure if I was dreaming or not. It’s driving my crazy and I obviously can’t talk about it with anyone.

confused-sad

Posted by Mark in Confused on Aug 29th, 2008 | 10 comments

My wife is 9 months pregnant. A blessing indeed.
About 4 months ago I had a one night affair with a women that my wife and I are friends with. This women and myself have very good chemistry and great sexual chemistry. Both of those things are lacking with my wife and I. It pains me to say it but I don’t think I have ever been in love with my wife. Our sex life is not very good and we argue alot. She acknowledges our marital problems but isn’t that motivated to improve them.
I am happy about being a father but am not sure about being married to this women. I did the marriage counseling and read several books, boh of which helped briefly. This other women and I are keeping our hands off each other at this point, but both of us no we are going to be together at some point again. She is also married.
I feel tremendous guilt. I wonder why I got married in the first place. My wife and I were distant lovers and friends for many years but we never had that passion that people that are deeply in love have. Unfair I am and I know this. It bothers me so much. I found this site and am posting for the first time. I wish I felt different, especially at this juncture with the child arriving. I have been supportive of my wife but if she knew that I was with this other women she would be gone. The confusion in my mind is off the charts. It feels good to write this! I want to feel love and don’t right now. Perhaps I don’t know what love is? I read somewhere that love is not a feeling but an action. The crazy thing about all of this is she is carrying our child and I don’t feel as close to her as I probably should.