Lost Virginity to a guy 7 years older than me

Posted by Alice in Confused on Jul 16th, 2010 | 6 comments

When I was 19, I lost my virginity to a guy 7 years old older than me. He kind of pressured me into it. During the first 6 months, he said he wanted to live together but I never did. I should have never given into the sex. He was 26. We have been hanging out together almost every week. During the first two years he was always into sex and then it became nonexistent recently for the past 5 years. He does not show any sort of affection for five years not even holding hands or kisses. He says he likes to hang out with me but Im confused because I have never met any of his friends at all.
He does not introduce me as a girlfriend ever but he calls me every night and talks to me. He spends alot of his time with me. He says he doesn’t want to take things seriously until later on but he does one action and contradicts what he say. He is already 31. I think he is just saying he doesn’t want anything serious because he actually does not want me as a girlfriend, and just waiting around for someone better. I am very confused to the point where I feel like some sort of whore. I have never had sexual things with anyone else but him. I have talked to him numerous times and he always brushes off the topic and makes jokes. Throughout the years I have never went out with someone else, because I thought he had feelings for me. I have reached my breaking point and have lost my cool because I feel like I gave up everything for him including my social life and now he says he doesn’t want anything serious. I know I was stupid when I was younger but I really don’t know what to do now.

help me

Posted by john in Confused on Jul 12th, 2010 | 5 comments

i’m a 24 years old guy and my wife she’s 27,i know my wife for 3 weeks before we got married and she had a 4 years daughter everything was perfect until 1 month we got married i found out that she is cheating on me with her co-worker that she said is her crush before she meet me,i really love her and she really sorry and ask for a second chance,what should i do???i’m really hurt and confused right now??

Husband showed me off naked

Posted by Tiffany in Confused on Jul 3rd, 2010 | 40 comments

I was just cleaning out and shredding some old bills and came across a cd-rom in the bottom of the desk drawer. When I put it into the computer I found it had dozens of image pictures of me in the nude which my husband of 12 years had secretly taken of me. Pictures of me in the shower, undressing, sleeping and so on. I did not know what to think or feel and then I found some images with printing on them from where he sent them to some websites, and then saved the images off the site again. I looked some of the sites up and now know from the view counters and comments that over 50,000 strangers have seen my pictures showing my face and all of my secrets! My head is spinning and I am confused as to what to do next. My emotions are all over the place right now. How do I confront this? Should I?

Im not ready to marry and settle down..

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Jun 28th, 2010 | 5 comments

We are getting married in five months, buying a home shortly and all I want to do is run. Im so scared it wont work out because all the relationships around us have failed. I dont want to loose him but sometimes I want to stop being so mature in life and act like the irresponsible drinking 20 some year old that my friends are all doing. I also cant stop sexting my ex and thinking how he was better in bed and missing it…

32 and lost

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on Jun 21st, 2010 | 5 comments

I think I’m lost. Actually I know I am. IM 32 and Im penny less. I have kept up the charade of being worth something to my friends and family but in all honesty I’m living barely , I think I have some mental heath issues. I have been to therapy as a teen and even be incarcerated in an institute in the past but now i feel I should seek help again or perhaps re evaluate my being in the public as I am not coping well with my surroundings ATM. I’m not saying I’m a danger to anyone or anything awe-full like that I’m just thinking that its getting worse not better and I believe I might need professional help. Now heres the kicker> I have a young daughter and I’m not with her mom for many a reason, Now if i go to get help that gos on my record and I loose any chance of getting visitation when it comes time to go to court .. and it looks like that time is coming soon. Mind you I’m here typing this sitting alone On fathers day so i’m sure thats not helping my mood. So on top of it all. I find my self with out faith to turn to or hope of anything other than a bleak future. All in all at least i have my health right. ?

Questioning my sanity

Posted by Tired in Confused on Jun 13th, 2010 | 2 comments

I am an alcoholic. I have been sober for 3 yrs now. I am married to a drunk. I have had past history of mental instability. I’ve been off medicine for just as long as I have been sober. Personally, I feel clearer than I ever have. Now, however, my other half makes me question myself. I see him walk about and mutter to himself. He gets mad for no reason (never physical, more like a temper tantrum), and everything is every body elses’ fault. Then he passes out. The next day he wakes up like nothing happened only to start the whole cycle all over. I do say things about him drinking to much but for the most part it falls upon deaf ears. His family won’t believe me because they think that he works hard (and he does) and just self medicates. He won’t go to a doctor. I am just at my wits end. Sometimes, ( I hate myself for saying this) I just wish he would drink himself to death.

Cutting myself

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on May 31st, 2010 | 9 comments

I feel terrible about what I’ve done. I’m a 15 year old girl, and for a short period of time I was extreamly depressed. Things were not going well for me at all. And I actually resourced to cutting myself. I don’t know why I thought this would help me, but I did it afew times. The thing is… once you cut yourself the first time, it’s easier to do it again. Eventually I realized on my own, that this was not the answer, and I stopped. I used a perforated kitchen knife. I still have scares on my left wrist. I did it once more months later, but got caught, I feel horrible. I hope you won’t judge me too harshly, and I just wanted to know if God can forgive me for this. Does He forgive me? :(

confused

Posted by anonymous in Confused on May 31st, 2010 | 2 comments

i moved from manhattan to cleveland.no family here. i move for a guy who isnt even here.he’s in iraq. im not even sure i want to be in this relationship.i’m torn between joining the peace corp and staying here with him.he wants a family in the future,i dont. i dont think we even have much in common.the sex is getting better,but it isn’t enough.im starting to think im wasting my life here.

No Place for Me

Posted by Anonymous in Confused on May 30th, 2010 | 2 comments

Here I am at 34yo and despite traveling across the country and living in a handful of states for education and work and having more opportunities to explore the world than my parents and siblings, I am no closer to being happy with my life nor feeling as if I have found a place to call home.

I have people around me who I call friends, but none of them really know me nor seem to want to really take the time or interest to get to know me. These friends all feel superficial. If I quit my job and left this area I have been in for 6 years now I feel like no one would really care nor miss me. I keep trying to leave and find a better paying job but nothing comes of my searches. So I continue to be in a job I’m not overly happy in, in a workplace where I feel I have little to no connections or relationships with people anymore, and in a city that, despite being so large, leaves me feeling so alone and uncared for.

I’m part of a community that seems to think anyone past 30yo is not attractive nor worthy of a relationship anymore, therefore attempts to get to know someone or start a relationship are declining each day as I get older. Plus if I don’t a certain trendiness or body then that’s two more strikes against me.

I wish I could just tell the world to **** off and run away from all of this bullshit and do what I truly want. But financial debt keeps me anchored.

Where is my happiness? Where is my peace? Where is my place to fit in?

Confusion

Posted by Sarah in Confused on May 25th, 2010 | 5 comments

I’m so confused I don’t know how to confess. I think I eat just to hurt myself. I’ve started slapping myself round the head and I bit my arm the other day so hard it’s left a bruise. I hate doing anything I have to do because I feel like the stakes are too high. I’m 19 and I’m afraid of getting old and dying alone. I wish I was as pretty as I was when I was 10 and everybody told me so. I wish I had the balls to go off the rails. I wish food disgusted me. I wish I had the stamina to be anorexic again.

I’m Going Slowly Insane

Posted by Anne Onn in Confused on May 20th, 2010 | 6 comments

I’m gradually losing my mind, I’m afraid I’m leaning towards more violent tendencies of late too. Things are getting bad.

I am a closet transexual

Posted by Not Really Male in Confused on May 10th, 2010 | 4 comments

I am so unhappy being a male. I secretly want to start transitioning from male to female. Permanent hair removal, hormones, facial feminization surgery, SRS surgery, full time, and everything. I go to a support group secretly. As soon as I get a stable job, I want to go to therapy to begin the process.