Comments on: Six years ago

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 15:38:58 +0000

Be aware that because it all happened so many years ago, and there is no physical evidence, the chances of him being convicted are really very slim. It will ultimately come down to your word against his, and, I hate to say it, your best friend may make the wrong choice in who to believe. I’m not saying this to be nasty, or upsetting, and I agree that you should do something about it, but you must be aware of the possibilites once you do tell. I wuold suggest, if you can bear it, to confront him and get him to admit he raped you and tape it, because, sadly, that is probably the only way you will be believed and justice will be served in this patriarchal misogynistic soceity. I really don’t mean to upset anyone, I just think that all the advice telling you to open up about it is kind, but maybe not well thought out as I know from experience that sometimes telling people about it can be worse than the thing itself. Whatever you do, I wish you luck. x

By: Anon

Anon — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 09:00:54 +0000

I think that the worst thing about rape is loosing control over your life. You lost the power to make decisions like who to give your ‘firsts’ to. The best thing to do in my opinion is to reclaim yourself. What he did was his own fault not yours. Admit that something bad happened to you and fight it. If your bestfriend loves you she will understand. You have to do this for yourself and believe that you deserve better. Being raped did not make you lesser person if you overcome it. I hope you find strength to reclaim yourself.

By: Javin

Javin — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 04:29:20 +0000

By not telling anyone, you are directly responsible for any other women he has raped, and continues to rape. It’s your fault. I hope your conscience is good with that.

By: Needle & Thread

Needle & Thread — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 01:09:59 +0000

It’s good that you’ve taken the initiative to start somewhere and utilising the website. Thing is, telling someone might be beneficial. Not only is it damaging to your health to keep it in, but I agree with Anonymous. Old habits die hard, and chances are that you’re not the only one.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 21:37:55 +0000

just think of the other girls you would save.

By: Strider

Strider — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 21:55:32 +0000

Don’t play the martyr too much anymore. I can relate why you don’t tell but you should no longer fear for the same reasons. If you see the rapist still, whisper in his ear that he has a small ****- even if he doesnt- say it. Then everytime you see him just hold your fingers like an inch apart and mouth the words ‘tiny ****’ to him when no one can see.
Don’t give him an opportunity to get you alone so he can threaten you, stay around your friend so if he does she will see it for herself. If he does threaten you- record it and call the police and tell him if he comes near you shoot him with the ******* gun you get and if all of that seems too much - post here and I will go beat the snot out of a fuckwad that rapes a 14 yr old.

By: Ms.B

Ms.B — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:18:08 +0000

Please tell someone. You have been living with this for so long and its gonna consume you and make your life hell. Its like your traped in your own jail. Its also possilbe that he may have done this to other girls before you. Please tell someone.

By: carlo

carlo — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 13:34:13 +0000

you my simpathy is with you and i feel sorry for what happened to you but somehow im just wondering why do you have to keep it a secre, you were rape and it is a capital offence, you have to fight for what is lost to you, your silence might temp him to do it again and again to you. if you really love your friend then dont just sit there trying to pretend as if nothing had happened. be honest and tell her the truth as they say “the truth shall set you free”. be brave to fight.

By: me

me — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 02:03:49 +0000

Oh my god! 6 yrs and you haven’t told anyone? You must feel awful. Poor you. Her brother is a jerk! He should be in jail, you have to tell someone. Or maybe he’ll do the same thing to some of her other friends. Maybe you friend will de crushed, but you don’t want him to rape more girls, right?
Good luck,!